朋友是什么东西？(What's the meaning of a friend?)

这个问题我在去年就已经在“独来独往的午餐”回答过了。

你们还记得我的答案吗？

答案就是“朋友是不管在哪儿，都能让你微笑的人”。。就这么简单。。虽然，我看不见他，他不在我身边，但是想一想他，我就会微笑，那就是我的朋友，我喜欢，我关心，我爱的朋友。

竟然我已经写过‘朋友’这词汇的意识，那么我为什么还问呢？

其实，我想听听大家的意见。

如果像我说的，朋友是能让我们微笑的人，那么，让我们伤心难过，流泪的人，还算是朋友吗？

这就是我现在在绞尽脑汁寻找答案的问题。。

如果凭着我之前对‘朋友’的定义，朋友是让我微笑的人，那么让我流泪的，就不是朋友了咯？对吗？是这样吗？

其实，这么说会有点矛盾，对吗？因为，一个人若能让你伤心难过，那个人在你心里就一定有某种地位了。若是，一个毫无相干的人，你不认识的人，你认为不重要的人，他就肯定没法让你流泪。

打个比方说，一个你不熟悉的人搞砸了你的计划，你只会很生气，破口大骂，但是，你就只是单单的生气，而不会伤心，对吗？但是，如果，你的朋友把什么事情搞砸了，你就不只是生气了，你会有点儿难过，因为，你伤心，不明白为什么他不了解你的心思。。你们想想看，我这样说，对吗？

现在回到那个问题，让我伤心难过流泪的人，还算是我的朋友吗？你们可以解释一下答案给我吗？因为，我真的不懂。谢谢。。

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What is the meaning of a ‘Friend’?

I’ve already answer this question last year in a mandarin post called “A Lonely Lunch”

If you still remember the answer, it is “A friend is a person who no matter where he is, can always make you smile”. Even though, I can’t see him, he is not with me physically, but just a simple thought of him will make me smile, that person is a friend that I care for, I love.

Since I’ve already figured out the meaning of a ‘friend’ then why am I asking it now?

I want to get some opinions from all of you out there.

Based on what I’ve said, a friend is a person who can make you smile, then how about a person that makes you cry? Is he still a friend?

I still haven’t a clue about this.

Based on my previous definition, would that mean a person that makes me sad or cry is not my friend?

This would be a little contradicting, isn’t it? If a person can make you sad and cry, that means the person possesses a certain position within your heart; a person who is of no importance to you will definitely not be able to make you cry, correct?

An example would be, a person who you know not so well messes up your plans, you will be angry and even scold him, but that’s it, you are just purely angry but not sad, correct? But if a friend messes up your plans, then you will not only be angry but also sad, because you don’t get it why he doesn’t understand the importance of what you are trying to do, right? Try thinking about it, the last time when a friend screws up your things and you feel sad.

Back to the question, is a person who makes you cry, your friend? Can you all please explain to me, as I really don’t know. Thanks…