"如果爱一个，真的能做到要那人去寻找自己的幸福吗？"
你们认为呢？
对本人来说，如果两个人已经尝试过在一起，但是还是发现没法在一起，那么，为何还要勉强在一起，把大家都搞得不开心呢？
既然爱着对方，心里要的不是那人活得开心吗？拥有一个人，却得不到那人的心，或两人心合不来，那又有何用呢？
倒不如让另一方去寻找快乐，好好儿地祝福另一方，不是吗？
当然，象启义所说，虽然自己嘴里说，想另一方找到快乐，自己就会开心，但是实事是自己的心里会在开心时，也同时感到伤痛，而且这种伤痛是一个人孤独的伤痛，只能默默地单独承受，另一方是永远都不会知道有一个傻瓜在伤心。。
同时，也会有人说，自己是个容易放弃之人。。但是这一点，就得看自己是怎么想咯。。竟然已经尽力了，我觉得应该不算‘放弃’吧。。只是单纯地要自己喜欢的人找到真正的幸福而已，所以才牺牲自己吧。。不是吗？
A very interesting topic of discussion which I had with kYi was:-
"If you really love a person, will you be able to allow the person to search for true happiness?"
What do you all think?
For me, if two person have already tried to be together, but noticed that it doesn't work out, then what is the point of being together and making everyone unhappy?
If you really love the person, don't you want the person to find true happiness? To possess a person yet not the person's heart, or both parties' heart can never get along, then what's the point of being together?
Wouldn't it be better to allow the other to search for true happiness? And also wishing the person whom you love the best in the journey?
As kYi said, even though we may say, when the other find true happiness, we will also be happy for them, but actually deep down in our heart, we will also feel an extreme pain and sadness; and this pain and sadness, unlike other types, will only be for ourselves to bear and endure until the end... The other party will never know that there is a person admiring sadly at the corner...
Those who chose this path may also be called as people who easily give up. But this seriously depends on how you see it. If you had really tried, and it doesn't work, I guess it isn't 'giving up' anymore, but just sacrificing one's self for the happiness of the one who we love...
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