We Are Always Being Judged

When I saw these words, I recalled about an incident which I want to share with all of you. This incident is as the title states "We Are Always Being Judged".

There was a guy in my class that like to touch others while talking. To me, there is nothing wrong at all about that, it was just his way of informing the person, that he is talking to the person. It is just like when I want to talk to someone, I would call the person's name first before saying what I want to say especially if there are other people around as he may not notice that I'm actually talking to him.

Another thing about this guy is that he is very friendly with some of his friends (guys). So, sometimes we can see him putting his hand over his friend's hand when they are sitting together in the lecture room as all the chairs are only separated by one armrest in between, and the arm rest isn't very big. If one guy has already put his arm on the rest, then another person has no place to put there already.

One day, another classmate, a girl saw that and started whispering to me..

Girl "Hey, seriously right, I'm wondering, is he gay? Do you know ah?"

Ted "Har?! What's wrong? Why you say til like that?"

Girl "You see la, his arm is over the other guy's arm, and I noticed he likes to touch other guys when talking to them"

Ted "Oh, he is like that one, very friendly, and those guys are his close friends la, so it's normal, nothing weird lor, you think too much la... he is a really nice guy"

Girl "You sure mar?"

From this conversation, we can see very clearly that all of us, whether we know it or not, like it or not, there is always somebody out there looking at us, judging us.

So what should we do? What can we do?

The answer is "We can do nothing".. Yes, nothing at all... It's their mouth, it's their mind, We can't stop them from talking neither can we stop them from thinking...

Sometimes people say, "just do what you think is right, as long as it is correct in the sense of principle, moral and ethics, then you should not worry.. "

But then again, when you find out what people are saying about you, you will still get hurt and sad... That's the sad thing about life... But what can we do?