分手的季节 (Breaking Up Season)

真是奇妙，大家都知道水果有季节，原来分手也是有季节的。

最近，从朋友的部落格或和他们闲聊时得知关于他们在感情（爱情，友情）方面放手的事。真是奇怪，怎么突然间这么多人在感情方面出了问题呢？是瘟疫吗？

有些说男友心未定，
有些说不知女友要些什么，
有些说朋友冷落了他们。

这到底是怎么了？是天气太热吗？还是有什么新的传染病？

从大家的问题来看，原因都往往围绕在‘沟通’这两个字里。

有'沟通'才有'了解'
有'了解'才有'信任'
有'信任'才有'感情'

少了'沟通'就有了'误解'
有了'误解'就没了'信任'
没了'信任'就失了'感情'

这样来看，从'沟通'到'感情'这个阶段，缺一不可。

女生说男友行为怪异，男生却什么都不想解释，所以有了猜疑；
男生说女友很静，所以没法了解她心里要的是什么；
她说另一个朋友突然对她很冷淡，但之前又没有发生过什么明显的问题，所以不知道如何是好。

如果男友肯向女生解释一下为何他最近的性格有点儿失常，那么女生就不必对他有疑心，担心他一脚踏两船。
如果女友肯向男生诉说心里的想法，男生就不会怀疑自己是否是她心目中的类型。
如果那朋友肯告诉她哪里出了问题，她就不会在他们的友情上这么无助了。

'沟通'真的能解决一切问题吗？
那么为何大家的问题都很像解决不了呢？
到底是哪里出了问题？

人往往都是易知难行，知道沟通就是解决问题的要诀，却不知道如何去'沟通'。

我本人发现'沟通'其实不是件简单的事。

一，'沟通'不是口头上的说话而已，而是两人心灵上的交谈。如果不是把心里话说出来，那么沟通了也没用，因为真正该向对方表达的意思完全没让对方知道。

二，'沟通'是需要两人的配合才能成功的。但是，不是每次都能两人一心想沟通。很多时候都是一方想，但另一方却不想。有时，不是自己不想和他人沟通，而只是不想烦到另一方。有些人是想，既然自己已经很烦，为何还要烦到另一方呢？有时候，看见另一方已经为别的事而烦，如果再把俩人的问题拿来谈，担心会让对方烦上加烦，所以不管是怎么辛苦难受，还是自己默默地承担一切。

咳。。一份感情（爱情，友情）不容易维持，因为需要两人的配合才行。。。

Related Links:-
- 顺其自然 / 随缘
- 放手
- 从认识变成不认识 / Known to Unknown
- 问答
- 朋友是什么东西？(What's the meaning of a friend?)
- 喜欢一个人好累

我知道Wo Zhi Dao - BY2
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Everybody knows that fruits maybe seasonal, but I noticed that Breaking Up (Love, Friendships) seems to have seasons too.

Talking to some friends and also from reading their blogs, I noticed many of them have chosen to let go of their relationships (Love, Friendship). But it’s kind of weird that there are so many people having the same problem at the same time, is it contagious?

Some say their boyfriends are too playful,
Some say their girlfriends are too hard to understand,
Some say their friends are giving them a cold shoulder.

From everyone’s problem, it seems like the reason for the relationship issue is revolving around the word ‘communication’.

When you ‘communicate’, you have ‘understanding’,
When you ‘understand’, you have ‘trust’,
When you ‘trust’, there comes your ‘relationships’

Lack of ‘communication’, invites ‘misunderstandings’,
When ‘misunderstood’, there is no ‘trust’,
If you can’t ‘trust’, then there is no ‘relationship’.

It seems like from communication to the building of a relationship, is a continuous process of various stages which none can be omitted.

A girl says her boyfriend is behaving abnormally, but her boyfriend doesn’t want to explain himself, hence she is suspicious of their relationship.
A guy says his girlfriend has been rather quiet, hence he has no idea what is going through her mind.
She says her friend is being cold to her, but there were no obvious problems before this, hence she has no idea how to remedy the situation.

If the guy is willing to explain why he has a sudden change in his behavior, then the girl doesn’t have to be suspecting that he is playing her.
If the girl is willing to tell the guy what is on her mind, then he won’t have to worry whether he is the type she is looking for.
If the friend can tell her where is the problem, then she wouldn’t be so helpless in the friendship.

Can ‘communication’ really solve all the relationship issues?
If so, why isn’t everybody’s problem being resolved?
Where is the problem now?

We, humans often know things theoretically, but don’t know how to carry it out in practical. We know that communicating can solve the problem, yet we don’t know how to communicate with each other.

I, myself find that ‘communication’ isn’t something easy to do actually.

1, ‘Communication’ isn’t about two person exchanging words verbally, but it’s actually two parties’ heart trying to connect with each other. If one doesn’t speak out what is in one’s heart, then the communication will fail as the real message was not conveyed to the other person.

2, ‘Communication requires both parties’ cooperation to work. But it is difficult to find both parties having the common aim to communicate. Most of the time, one may want to communicate while the other doesn’t. Sometimes, it isn’t about one person doesn’t want to communicate with the other, but he just doesn’t want to burden the other person. He maybe thinking that he is already rather frustrated about the relationship (love, friendship) problem, so why does he want to drag the other person into the matter. Sometimes, when you notice that the other person is already very busy with other matters in his own life, so you may not want to bring up the relationship issue to further burden the person, hence you somehow sacrifice your own feelings by keeping all relationship problems in your own heart, carrying the burden by yourself, no matter how painful it can be.

A relationship isn’t something easy to maintain, as you need both parties willingness and cooperation to protect and develop it…

Related Links:-
- 顺其自然 / 随缘
- 放手
- 从认识变成不认识 / Known to Unknown
- 问答
- 朋友是什么东西？(What's the meaning of a friend?)
- 喜欢一个人好累

分手快乐 - 梁静如

第二句

通常愿意留下来跟你争吵的人
才是真正爱你的人

The Sniper (2009)

Just watch the much controversial Edison Chen starred movie called The Sniper. Before I go on, I would like to say I'm giving the movie a 4.5 Stars out of 5. Very nice movie!

The movie revolved around a elite police Sniper Squad. In the squad there were two top snipers who were always competing with each other to be the best. Ming (starred by Ren Xian Qi) and Ching (Huang Xiaoming) were strong competitors with Ching being the top shooter all the time. Ming was undoubtedly rather jealous of Ching's achievements and promotions in the squad.

In one mission involving a bank robbery, Ching noticed the robber was about to use the grenade, hence decided to take the headshot even though an order was given to stand down. Ching took the shot and missed killing a hostage standing in front of the robber. As there were only two snipers including Ching (the other is Ming), only Ming saw the entire scenario clearly. When an inquiry was made to investigate why Ching disobeyed a direct order to stand down, Ming lied to the committee by saying he did not notice that the robber wanted to use the grenade, hence Ching's shot was uncalled for. This caused Ching to be charged with manslaugher and imprisoned for 4 years.

When he was freed, he wanted revenge on Ming and the entire sniper squad, which now has a new sniper "O" (starred by Edison Chen). O was a very talented sniper too as Ming said, but overly confident at sometimes. All the sniper squad member were killed by Ching in a stand off except for O who manages to get a shot at him when Ming used himself as a bait to make Ching's position vulnerable.

The story was normal, you know, the usual competitor matter, one cheated, the other coming back for revenge. But the way the story went was nice. The silly thing about this show is the choice of actors unfortunately, I don't understand why they chose Ren Xian Qi to act in this cantonese movie when his cantonese is really weak. I'm not sure whether Huang Xiaoming is a native speaker of cantonese or not, but I doubt so too.

Nonetheless, this show still get 4.5 stars from me. Generally, good movie for guys to go watch. Girls may just find it boring. Except the part where the sniper team are training as the were shirtless showing off their 6 packs!!! Haha... Have fun...

"自信是好的，但是过于自信就会自负"

"好胜心是每个男人都有的，但是如果好胜心败坏人性，那就不值得了"

Myself

It's much easier to get things done when I'm by myself...
It's much easier to be by myself...
It's much easier to talk to myself...
It's much easier to understand myself...
It's much easier to be happy when I'm by myself...
It's much easier to avoid being hurt when I'm by myself...
It's much easier to be safe from lies when I'm by myself...
It's much easier to prevent being played when I'm by myself...

All By Myself - Celine Dion

洪婆婆

三伯“妈，我要去巴生，我载你去”

婆婆“去巴生啊。。。现在去啊？我看还是不要啦”

我“阿妈，去啦。。久久一次，做墨不要去，你和他们关系很亲的嘛。。”

婆婆“不要啦，不好意思，他们会给我红包的，每次都这样”

我“那有什么关系，久久一次吗，你都很久没见过他们了，你和洪婆婆不是很好吗？去看看她咯，聊聊天也好。。”

婆婆“洪婆婆哪里还在？她走了咯。。她没有了。。”

就这样，我才知道，原来婆婆的多年好友与恩人已经离开了。

我婆婆从年轻时就已经认识了这位洪婆婆了，应该也有六十多年了。那时，她时常帮助我婆婆，所以不只是我婆婆的恩人，也是我们一家的恩人，但是没想到她老人家，这么快就走了。

婆婆又少了一位好朋友。

这就是长寿的不好之处，要看着自己身边的人一个接一个地离开。。

但是，还是想祝婆婆长命百岁。。

一天一天

一天一天地过去，
一天一天地叹气，
一天一天地伤心，
一天一天地累下去，
一天一天地厌倦了。。

第一句

如果我们之间有1000步的距离
你只要跨出第1步
我就会朝你的方向走其余的999步

喊

我不明白为什么有些人很喜欢喊。

你喊
就代表你是对而别人是错的吗？

你喊
就代表你的势力比较大吗？

你喊
就代表其他人都得服从你吗？

我真的很不明白这些人的心理是怎样的。

其实有很多事情，好好儿地说出来就行了。
但是为什么就是有一些人喜欢把它喊出来呢？
这些人喊的用意到底是什么？
喊了，就比较开心吗？

这些人有没有想过，
她们喊的声音令人感到很反感！！
简直是得人厌！！！

Use Chocolate To Calculate Your Age

1. First of all, pick the number of times a week that you would like to have chocolate (more than once but less than 10)

2. Multiply this number by 2 (just to be bold)

3. Add 5

4. Multiply it by 50 -- I'll wait while you get the calculator

5. If you have already had your birthday this year add 1759 ..
If you haven't, add 1758.

6. Now subtract the four digit year that you were born.

You should have a three digit number

The first digit of this was your original number
(i.e., how many times you want to have chocolate each week).

The next two numbers are

YOUR AGE! (Oh YES, it is!!!!!)

我知道

从来没想过不能再和你牵手
委屈时候没有你陪着我心痛
一切都是我太过骄纵以为你会懂
一直忘了说我有多感动

我知道你还是爱着我虽然
分开的理由
我们都已接受

你知道我会有多难过所以
即使到最后
还微笑着要我加油

我知道你还放不下我才会
在离开时
闭着眼没有回头

我们都知道彼此心中其实
这份爱没停过

曾经吻着幸福的梦在脑海里头
我多希望你还在我左右

答应你
我会好好过不让
这些眼泪白流

我知道Wo Zhi Dao - By2

Susan Boyle: I salute you..

Never judge a book by its cover,
Never judge a person by his looks,
This lady, called Susan Boyle prove this statement to be true without a doubt.

She may not have the figure of a beauty queen,
Nor the looks of a princess,
Neither is she young as she is already 47,

But, that all doesn't matter,
When she set out the journey to make her dream,
To prove herself to others,

I guess that was the moment she was looking for ages,
An opportunity not to prove everyone is wrong about her,
But an opportunity to prove who she is to everyone..

Bravo Susan.. Bravo... I salute your courage and I acknowledge your beautiful voice... Wishing you all the best...

Susan Boyle on Britains Got Talent 2009!! Incredible Voice!! @ Yahoo! Video

以色侍人，能好多久

“以色侍人，能好多久” – 唐朝，徐才人

上面这句话是出自于唐朝徐才人。当时，徐才人被皇上宠信，所以很多人都很羡慕她，包括武媚娘。

有一晚，武才人特地去见徐才人，为了就是想问她到底是不是因为本身姿色不够而不被皇上宠信。

徐才人得知武才人去找她的目的时，觉得武才人非常肤浅，所以说了那句话，还说：不管花有多么艳丽，终究还是有老去的一天。

以前的后宫才人，一入宫，盼望的就是能见到皇上，得到陛下的宠信，再升为嫔妃，贵妃还是皇后。他们能做的往往就只是以美色来得到皇上的爱戴。但是，她们都不明白一点，那就是，后宫嫔妃众多，自己虽美，却又能美到何时呢？

虽然现在已经没有什么王朝，但在现今社会里的女生，还是有很多还是很喜欢以美色来引诱他人。你们觉得呢？

在吉隆坡读书时，不懂为什么就一直看到有一群女生，整天去上课时都打扮得很象要去舞会似的。如果已经是傍晚，我还不会去想些什么，有可能真的下课后要去派对还是什么的，但是是一大清早咧，穿着去晚会的dress，又画上浓妆，真的有点夸张咯。每次那班人一进课室，都一定有人会说“哇，又要去哪里喔？”。。哈哈。。可见得，她们真的是打扮得有点夸张啦。。当然，爱美是一个人的权力，她们要打扮，我是不能阻止。但是她们打扮成这样来上课的用意是什么？我还真的是不知道。。是想勾引班上的某某俊男吗？哈哈。。。我班上是有些很帅气，身材fit fit 的男生啦。。。但是，如果真的勾引到又怎样？人家只是被你的美色迷惑，有用吗？

不懂为何，有可能是我个人的口味不同吧，但是我不怎么喜欢爱打扮的女生。不是，不是，我应该说，我还没见过真正会打扮的女生。很多女生，平时看起来，都非常顺眼，美丽，优雅。但是，如果你看她们去什么Form 6 Prom 还是什么的照片，你就想“哇唠，是Halloween Party 吗？”。。不懂她们为何把自己的脸涂鸦到这种鬼样。。

哈哈。。 我不是想批评人家啦，我自己知道自己长得没什么样貌，根本没有资格去讲别人，我只是想说，其实有很多女生本身就看起来很顺眼，如果真的会打扮，就打扮，但要看场合啦，还有，如果不是很厉害化妆，就不要乱在自己脸上涂鸦吧。。。哈哈。。罪过。。罪过。。。

“你没有想过我的感受”

“电梯里通常都有面大镜子，
你们可否知道那镜子的用途是什么？
有些人说是让人检查自己的衣着打扮，
有些人却说是为了让视觉上觉得电梯比较宽大，
但是那面镜子真正的目的是为了让坐轮椅的人不用转身
就看见电梯荧幕显示的号码，
我们在讨论某个课题时，
都会海阔天空，
但是我们的思想往往都是以自己做为出发点。。”

和翠云小师妹聊天时，让我发觉原来很多人都没有想过别人的感受。

当你做出某些决定时，你是否有想过别人的感受？还是，你只是想过你自己要的是什么，自己觉得对的是什么，就不顾一切地去做？

做了你想做的事后，感觉如何？开心吗？满意吗？

但是，你觉得你身边的人，他们的感受又是如何的？他们满意吗？开心吗？还是被你的一举一动伤害了？还是你完全不管？

为了满足自己，你就做了你想做的事，但是有可能你做的是错的，所以伤害了别人。

但也有可能你做的是对的，但是别人不明白，不知道，你又不肯向别人解释，终究还是伤害了他人。

人难免有私心，做任何事都会想一想自己，可能不多，但还是会有一点，很难做到真正或完全百分之百的舍己为人。但是，不管是做什么事，都该想一想关心自己的人，尽量不要在对待别人时马虎，在感情上粗心大意，因为不管你做的是对还是错，你还是会伤害到对方。

一直很安静Yi Zhi Hen An Jing - 阿桑Ah Sang
*阿桑，谢谢你以你美丽的歌声陪伴了我们，你的离开是歌坛的损失。。

Anger

I just recalled a scene that I saw when I was at JB's PC Fair.

As any PC Fair, there were many people there, but as it was a Friday, the number of people still wasn't at its max.

Anyway, near the entrance to the main exhibition area, there was a booth at the left. At the front of the booth, there was a wooden stand where the exhibitors put their brochures. In the booth, there was a couple looking at the products.

Then, there were two exhibitors of another booth each carrying a lot of boxes making way through the crowd at the walk way.

One of the guy carrying the boxes accidentally got his jacket hooked onto the stand, but he didn't notice it and just continued to walk, causing the stand to go off balance and fell towards the guy who was in the booth, hitting his leg.

The exhibitor carrying the boxes wasn't aware of the incident and just kept on walking. The guy who got his leg hit by the wooden stand was in pain and extremely angry. He immediately jumped towards the exhibitor walking away trying to punch the back of his head. But as his girlfriend was holding his hand all the time, she pulled him just in time that he didn't manage to punch the exhibitor and the exhibitor didn't notice anything at all.

I'm curious, will any of you ever be so angry at somebody that you just want to hit the other person whether you know him or not?

喜欢一个人好累 (Love is to Sacrifice Oneself)

启义曾和我聊过一个很特别的话题。

"如果爱一个，真的能做到要那人去寻找自己的幸福吗？"

你们认为呢？

对本人来说，如果两个人已经尝试过在一起，但是还是发现没法在一起，那么，为何还要勉强在一起，把大家都搞得不开心呢？

既然爱着对方，心里要的不是那人活得开心吗？拥有一个人，却得不到那人的心，或两人心合不来，那又有何用呢？

倒不如让另一方去寻找快乐，好好儿地祝福另一方，不是吗？

当然，象启义所说，虽然自己嘴里说，想另一方找到快乐，自己就会开心，但是实事是自己的心里会在开心时，也同时感到伤痛，而且这种伤痛是一个人孤独的伤痛，只能默默地单独承受，另一方是永远都不会知道有一个傻瓜在伤心。。

同时，也会有人说，自己是个容易放弃之人。。但是这一点，就得看自己是怎么想咯。。竟然已经尽力了，我觉得应该不算‘放弃’吧。。只是单纯地要自己喜欢的人找到真正的幸福而已，所以才牺牲自己吧。。不是吗？

泳儿-喜欢一个人好累.Wma - Vincy

****************************Translation****************************

A very interesting topic of discussion which I had with kYi was:-

"If you really love a person, will you be able to allow the person to search for true happiness?"

What do you all think?

For me, if two person have already tried to be together, but noticed that it doesn't work out, then what is the point of being together and making everyone unhappy?

If you really love the person, don't you want the person to find true happiness? To possess a person yet not the person's heart, or both parties' heart can never get along, then what's the point of being together?

Wouldn't it be better to allow the other to search for true happiness? And also wishing the person whom you love the best in the journey?

As kYi said, even though we may say, when the other find true happiness, we will also be happy for them, but actually deep down in our heart, we will also feel an extreme pain and sadness; and this pain and sadness, unlike other types, will only be for ourselves to bear and endure until the end... The other party will never know that there is a person admiring sadly at the corner...

Those who chose this path may also be called as people who easily give up. But this seriously depends on how you see it. If you had really tried, and it doesn't work, I guess it isn't 'giving up' anymore, but just sacrificing one's self for the happiness of the one who we love...

Stupid Mothers!!!

I went down to JB today and I was so unfortunate yet lucky to have bumped into some very stupid people!!!

1. While driving down to JB, the road was rather clear while the other, heading in the opposite direction was rather busy due to many slow moving lorries. Unfortunately, when I was cruising along the road down to JB, there was this purple color Honda City on the opposite road which suddenly drove out from the back of the Causeway Link bus to overtake it. The problem is I was just about 100 metres away from him at that time, causing me to evade to the left, ending up at the side of the road while he continues to drive on. Luckily, I avoided a head-on collision with that BABI wearing red Baju Melayu with Songkok and a ugly misai and black sunglasses!!

2. After buying everything that I need from PC-Fair, I went over to Jusco hoping to meet up with my BabyDan, but due to rain, he couldn't make it. Anyway, after walking around in Jusco and doing a little shopping for titbits, I decided to leave. On my way out of the basement parking, unfortunately, a stupid mother carrying a 2 year old baby intelligently dashed out into the middle of the road forcing me to brake suddenly!! Then she took two steps back onto the middle line between the two lanes. I don't understand her!! If she had just taken two steps forward rather than backwards, she would have successfully cross the road rather then ending up in the middle of the road again where cars are moving. Damn stupid la this Chinese mother!! Don't know how to take care of her child!!! Luckily, I did not hit her baby... and her also... (I'm not that cruel)...

3. Later, I reached the junction to go up to the open-air parking of Jusco (since I need to use the exit there rather than those in the basement), I signalled to turn into the junction and unfortunately, an idiotic fat ass woman holding her child's hand just crossed the road with her fat ass husband at the point I was turning into the junction. I honk her and her stupid husband who was bloody oblivious that there was a car coming as they didn't look before crossing with their (maybe) 5 year old child. Luckily, I did not drive over their child and hit their fat asses to Holland!! I have a strong sense that their child may just die from crossing the road in the future just like that advertisement on TV where the child walks across the road blindfolded without looking, just because his parents don't know how to teach him how to cross the road when he was still young.

Due to these two stupid mothers who cannot take care of their children, hence you see my title dedicated to them!!

We Are Always Being Judged

When I saw these words, I recalled about an incident which I want to share with all of you. This incident is as the title states "We Are Always Being Judged".

There was a guy in my class that like to touch others while talking. To me, there is nothing wrong at all about that, it was just his way of informing the person, that he is talking to the person. It is just like when I want to talk to someone, I would call the person's name first before saying what I want to say especially if there are other people around as he may not notice that I'm actually talking to him.

Another thing about this guy is that he is very friendly with some of his friends (guys). So, sometimes we can see him putting his hand over his friend's hand when they are sitting together in the lecture room as all the chairs are only separated by one armrest in between, and the arm rest isn't very big. If one guy has already put his arm on the rest, then another person has no place to put there already.

One day, another classmate, a girl saw that and started whispering to me..

Girl "Hey, seriously right, I'm wondering, is he gay? Do you know ah?"

Ted "Har?! What's wrong? Why you say til like that?"

Girl "You see la, his arm is over the other guy's arm, and I noticed he likes to touch other guys when talking to them"

Ted "Oh, he is like that one, very friendly, and those guys are his close friends la, so it's normal, nothing weird lor, you think too much la... he is a really nice guy"

Girl "You sure mar?"

From this conversation, we can see very clearly that all of us, whether we know it or not, like it or not, there is always somebody out there looking at us, judging us.

So what should we do? What can we do?

The answer is "We can do nothing".. Yes, nothing at all... It's their mouth, it's their mind, We can't stop them from talking neither can we stop them from thinking...

Sometimes people say, "just do what you think is right, as long as it is correct in the sense of principle, moral and ethics, then you should not worry.. "

But then again, when you find out what people are saying about you, you will still get hurt and sad... That's the sad thing about life... But what can we do?

乐观，惜福

其实世界是没有好于坏的地方，只是看自己能否接受那个环境而已。

不管一个地方有怎么坏，怎么不好，只要能达到‘心安’的境界，不被恶劣的环境干扰，那么我们都能找到快乐。

第二张图画就用以下的一句话来解释吧：
“造福者，有福”。。

【測驗】吃火鍋，測脾氣-我是麻辣锅，你呢？

1. 你喜歡沾醬料吃嗎？
A. 喜歡 (to 2)
B. 不喜歡 (to 5)

2. 你的醬料裡面會加雞蛋嗎？
A. yes (to 3)
B. no (to 6)

3. 如果你吃到一半，發現裡面有一小截的煙蒂，你會....
A. 跟服務生要求換一鍋新的 (to 13)
B. 不吃了，直接付錢走人 (to 10)

4. 你選擇火鍋店的標準是什麼？
A. 很有名氣 (to 7)
B. 價碼便宜 (to 8)

5. 火鍋店推出一種你完全沒看過的新式火鍋，你會勇於嘗試嗎？
A. yes (to 6)
B. no (to 8)

6. 你喜歡幾個人一起吃嗎？
A. 兩三個知心友 (to 9)
B. 一大群朋友 (to 3)

7. 店裡已經坐滿了人，你會一直在那邊等，還是不想等，馬上去另一家？
A. 等 (to 11)
B. 算了，去別的 (to 12)

8. 任喜歡加什麼樣的配料？
A. 麵條 (to 9)
B. 普通蔬菜 (to 7)

9. 你會先喝湯，還是先吃完所有的料再喝湯？
A. 先喝湯 (to 10)
B. 先吃料 (to 12)

10. 如果老闆告訴你火鍋裡必須加某種奇怪的配料才會變得很可口，你會試嗎？
A. yes (to 17)
B. no (to 13)

11. 你會不會在吃完熱騰騰的火鍋之後，來一碗清涼的刨冰？
A. yes (to 15)
B. no (to 14)

12. 吃火鍋的時候，你喜歡一開始就放肉，還是最後才放？
A. 一開始就放 (to 15)
B. 最後才放 (to 11)

13. 你喜歡把配料通通丟進鍋子裡面煮，還是一樣一樣慢慢煮？
A. 一次過煮 (to 17)
B. 一種一種煮 (to 16)

14. 你喜歡配什麼飲料？
A. 烏龍茶 (to 16)
B. 烏梅汁 (結果 #1)

15. 你喜歡在家吃火鍋，還是喜歡在外面吃？
A. 家中 (to 16)
B. 外面 (to 14)

16. 你快吃飽時，如果有下一個客人在後面等位子，你會在意嗎？
A. 會 (結果 #2)
B. 不會 ( 結束#3)

17. 已經吃的很飽了，這時老闆突然說要再免費送你一鍋，你還會吃嗎？
A. yes ( 結果#4)
B. no (to 16)



別急著偷看咩～











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結果#1→ 涮涮鍋
你的個性內向、有點自閉和孤癖一點，喜歡一個人安安靜靜地待在家裡，
對你來說，跟不認識的人交談是很困難的事，所以朋友並不多，
不過還是會有一些知心朋友，你要好好珍惜些關心你的人，不能因為是好朋友就疏於付出。

你對自己的事情比較有興趣，一旦立定目標，就會一步步完成，即使再苦也沒關係。
不過別把自己關在象牙塔裡，有些事情就算自己再有實力，沒有周圍的幫助，
仍然無法完成，要學著打開心，跟不同的人交往，如果能認識人脈很廣的朋友，
也可以增加與人接觸的機會喔！

與人交往，不要覺得厭煩，應該主動示好，一般人都會炊然接受你，透過這些往來，
說不定你會發現一個全新的自己正破殼而出呢！

結果 #2→ 麻辣鍋
個性有點偏激，喜惡分明你的性格比較火爆一點，好惡分明。
遇到你喜歡的事情會馬上採取行動，一旦覺得討厭，就想馬上脫身。
由於你先入為主的觀念，因此交友類型往往偏向某種人，
不過一旦成為朋友，就會跟對方深入地往來。

你很豪爽，當朋友遇到困難時，會馬上伸出援手，朋友都非常依賴你。
因為你的個性陰晴不定，有時可能因為一點麻小事而跟朋友鬧得不愉快，
或在五分鐘熱度後改變初衷，這些情形都會讓你失去朋友的信賴，
最好 學習有條 不紊地處理事情，堅持到最後。

在與人相處的時候，不妨試著跟原本覺得合不來的人交往看看，而不定會因此發現對方的優點，
這樣的嘗試可以慢慢增加你的朋友類型，讓你自己變得更有魅力、更受歡迎。

結果#3→ 日式火鍋

個性溫和，是隻溫馴的綿羊你的性情溫和要適應力強，容易跟大家打成一片，
在社團或班級中非常活躍，幾乎沒人會說你的壞話。你討厭跟別人發生衝突，
所以養成八面玲瓏的態度，對不同的人採取不同的說法，說好聽是適應力強，
說難聽就是缺乏個性，雖是個老好 人，卻缺乏個人魅力，表面上看來朋友雖然很多，
一旦遇到困難，卻缺少真正交心的朋友，有時會感到孤獨。

在團體之中你必須學會適時表達自己的意見，若因害怕衝突而一味配合對方，
並能讓對方更加瞭解自己。你協調能力很強，只要能勇夌表達心中的想法，
不以中傷為目的，相信別人一定會接納你的意見。
你就是你，凡事不需要人唯唯諾諾、一味忍耐，要走出自己的風格。

結束 #4→鴛鴦鍋

你的個性頑固、喜歡鑽牛角尖你的個性頑固，一旦快定的事、就算周圍的人反對到底，
佚也絕不改變心意，往好處想，這種個性可以讓你發揮強韌意志，
在團體中擔任有力的領導者，當有人或朋友遇到困難時，
你會義不容辭地出面幫大家解決，因此深受朋友們的信賴。

但是由於你非常堅持自己的想法，完全無視於周圍的建議，因此經常樹立人，
跟周圍發生許多摩擦。保持自己的風格固然不是一件壞事、但是過於頑固，
完全不理會別人想法，會讓大家感到傷腦筋，因而漸漸失去朋友，
最後說不定還會被孤立. 你必須學會傾聽與自己相反的意見，
尊重不同的價值觀跟思考方式，這樣就能增加彼此進一步瞭解的機會。

五大天使占卜…你屬於哪一位

１：當你有心事獨自坐於公車時你的動作？

　　ａ拿起書籍閱讀忘記一切......跳２
　　ｂ開朗自娛樂觀面對......跳３
　　ｃ靜靜看著外頭的風景......跳４

２：遇到困難的你會以何態度面對？

　　ａ無論如何希望自己能自我解決......跳３
　　ｂ真希望有人來幫我一把......跳４

３：有名有利的你為何不開心呢？

　　ａ沒有幸福的家庭溫暖.....跳５
　　ｂ生命中失去另一半的愛......跳６

４：你覺得別人是如何看待你這人？

　　ａ好相處......跳７
　　ｂ稍微強硬......跳５
　　ｃ稍微柔弱......跳６

５：與人發生衝突時你總是？
　　ａ處於強勢的一方......跳７
　　ｂ處於弱勢的一方.......跳６

６：二選一兩者你只能選擇 一樣你會選？
　　ａ愛人的真心.......亞納爾
　　ｂ真誠的友情......跳８

７：你的處事態度為何？
　　ａ看待事物對就是對，錯就是錯的觀點......米迦勒
　　ｂ別人看法為主，自己大多沒時麼意見......跳８
　　ｃ能適時發表自我看法.......跳９

８：當人傷害了你最不願想像的事時？
　　ａ真不希望發脾氣，不過真的是太過分了.......加百列
　　ｂ算了，發生都發生了也無法挽回......跳９

９：說真的你對於你不喜歡的人通常都???
　　ａ遇到還是會禮貌性的打招呼.......拉斐爾
　　ｂ連理都不想理更別說是打招呼......烏列





解析:

　　亞納爾：你是一位善良且體貼的人，由於你的個性很柔軟所以別人很喜歡和你交朋友，不過 也因為如此在朋友之間你並不擅長發言自己的看法，相對的你卻很在乎別人是如何看你，因為這樣你常常會覺得自己是否什麼事都做不好，你很容易受傷不管是感情還是工作交際方面，給自己一點自信心，因為你已經很努力了，說不定你並沒有自己想像的那麼脆弱喔。



　　米迦勒：你是一位負責的人，凡是與你有關的事你都一定不會忽略，對朋友而言你是一位可靠及值得信任的夥伴，在工作方面是上司的得力助手，充滿幹勁的你卻有點吹毛求疵，在別人眼中你總是忙碌的，似乎到了一板一眼的地步，也因為如此你很能把握機會為自己開創新的道路，但在感情方面，多多少少會忽略對方的感受，不如輕鬆一點，多多向你喜愛的人撒撒嬌吧。



　　加百列：你是一位隨和的人，不論是 什麼情況你總是能立即適應，大家都很喜歡和你在一起，因為你總是他們苦訴心事的垃圾桶，你的脾氣很好但一生起氣來可是會令人退避三捨，你工作時很認真不過總會些許偷懶，導致到最後東西來不及完成，在感情方面你是隨性的人，並不會給對方太多壓力及負擔，但也因為如此會被認為你不夠體貼對方，要注意喔。


　　拉斐爾：你是一位溫柔的人，總是會照顧你身旁的人，在朋友之中你也是最為顧慮別人感受的人，別人也因為你的體貼而感到窩心，你總是能化解怒氣滿貫的氣份，在工作場所之中除了你自己的業務外，你會幫自己的同事完成作業，在感情中你是一位一百分的戀人，對於別人的感受你絲毫不怠慢，不過也因為如此是不是反而沒有顧慮到自己最真誠的感覺。



　烏 列：你是一位敏感的人，在事物發生時你總是能清楚了解始末，對於週遭的變化也特別有感覺，你是一位非常仔細的人，朋友之中你會極力彰顯自己的能力，讓朋友覺得你是一位擁有計劃及目標的人，工作上同樣也會使勁全力讓上司認同你的能力，在感情上你很能夠察覺對方的心意，也能坦然的接受自己的心態，不過自己卻不擅長告白，與人相處或交往時別太神經質喔。

It is so difficult to trust others...

Lincoln the former President of the United States said that "Believing nobody is dangerous", but then, don't you feel that sometimes it is just too hard to believe (trust) somebody?

In my previous post on "Trust: A Bridge to The Heart". I mentioned about how a friend describe 'Trust' as a 'Bridge' that links two people together. I'd also stated how hard it was to build the bridge or to rebuild a bridge.

For you, my dear readers, is it easy for you to forge a relationship with others? I'm not saying just popping by and talking to somebody, but making a real relationship, having trust in the person. Is it easy? Or is it hard?

If it is hard, why is it hard? Sometimes, I really don't know why it is so hard. Is it because of something happened before which is so hard to forget until it affects the buiilding of bridges (trust) in the future?

To add to the problem, nowadays, there are so many people who can fake a smile in front of you and later when you are together, he shows his true colors which is a little too late.

It hits me that the art of trusting is very hard sometimes. I myself tend to have problems with it. I don't normally trust people easily, but when I decided to build a bridge, I still made the wrong choice and have someone break them in the end making me even worried of forging any new ones.

Trust: Something that isn't easy to build nowadays...

Related link:
- Trust: A Bridge to The Heart

Trust: A Bridge To The Heart

I was reading Sze Yin's blog the other day where she tried to describe the meaning of 'Trust'. I think she explain it rather well and accurate too. It was a Mandarin post, so I shall put it in English here in my blog with my own understandings too.

When two strangers meet, they know nothing of each other, whether it is their name, age, background, mentality, personality, etc. Nonetheless, people may still try to make an approach to get some information about each other.

This can be describe as two person on different sides of the river. They each take a small boat and travel across the river to greet each other. At first, since everyone knows nothing of each other, for security purposes, they may not allow the other person to step onto their piece of land (territory), so they might just stop in the middle of the river to exchange some greetings just to know a little about each other; or a person from one side may row the boat across to the other side to talk to the other land owner without stepping on the land, just sitting in his boat in the river. Later, when they are more familiar with each other. Then maybe one would take the boat across the river then seek permission to step onto the land of the other owner for further conversations.

But as time goes by and everyone is comfortable with each other, and they would like to forge a relationship, i.e. friendship, etc, they will need to have an easier access towards each others' piece of land. It would be rather troublesome if you always need to row a boat, fighting the currents to get across the river to the other side, wouldn't it?

Hence, a permanent bridge needs to be built to allow each other to walk across the river with ease to meet each other whenever there is a need and whenever they want to without hindrance from the geographical barrier.

This entire 'River Scenario' is actually describing two persons heart. The two people standing on each side of the river represents the heart of the two strangers. The bridge is the trust which brings the two hearts close together. While the river is the gap/differences between the two hearts. Even though the gap is always there as the two persons are always different and will always be different, but their differences are no longer an issue due to the presence of the bridge which brings them close together. With the bridge (trust), both hearts (people) will be more open to each other, each can go over to the other side of the river easily to take somethings back to keep and also the let the other person help store some things too.

As the function of the bridge, trust is there to allow each others' heart to meet and talk without barrier between them, without concealing too much, without fearing of sharing too much. One can easily get something from the other's heart with trust and also to put somethings into the other's heart for storage. Without trust (bridge), obviously the two person will never be able to do all this. They will only be able to shout on their sides of the river, causing one to barely hear what the other is trying to say or purposely saying it softly so that the other won't get the chance to hear it. At best, one can only row the boat across but not allowed to step onto the land, only speaking to the owner of the other side in his own boat.

Bridges can be built, so can they be destroyed. When the bridge is destroyed (trust has vanished), can the two hearts still be close together? Obviously no. You may argue that the bridge can be re-built. But it may not be as easy as you think. To build a bridge, many aspects need to be considered: The feasibility of having the bridge in the first place (is it a good idea to have it?), the location of it (you can't build it on soft land, as it will sink, you must choose the best spot), the cost of it (effort which needs to be put in), etc. That's why you often see only one bridge at a particular area rather than a few of them leading to the same town, right?

With all these matters to take into consideration, do you still think it is easy to build a bridge? Let's talk about location as an example, since your bridge has been built at the best spot and now the bridge is destroyed. Obviously there would be a lot of debris at that particular spot and some left over of the broken bridge. If you want to build another bridge, there may not be a new location suitable for it. If you want to rebuild at the same location, you will need to put in a lot of effort in the pre-building process as in clearing off the old bridge and cleaning the debris and strengthening the base of the river banks which may have been compromised. So, it may not be as easy as one may think. Obviously, it also hurts a lot when a you see a bridge which you have put in so much effort to build in the first place was destroyed and you may not even think of wanting to rebuild it or build another due to the phobia you had.

Thus, it is a very serious issue to build a bridge in the first place as you are exposing yourself to the pain of having it destroyed later or also hurting others heart who put in equal effort to build it in the first place. All relationships including friendships require a bridge, which is the bridge to the heart... Don't you agree?

多想認識你 - 泳兒

静

小和尚说‘静’。

其实是指‘心静’。

世间的凡夫俗子，往往都达不到‘心静’的境界。

因为经不起人间名利的诱惑，才会开始有私心。所谓人非圣贤，有点私心也在所难免。

但是我们都必须避免让自己的私心控制了我们的人生。为了夺取名利，做出违背道德良心的事，不能自拔，失去了人生短短几十年的逍遥。。

大年初一

哈哈。。这篇文章很象写得有点迟。。但没关系啦，只是想让大家知道我新年的第一天是怎么开始的。。

初一早上，天还是暗暗的时候，我没睡觉就只是看电视！对咯。。八频道有通宵的新年节目嘛。。还有上网，但是一个人都没有咯。。整个MSN是空的。。想SMS人家却想别人应该是吃完团圆饭就睡了还是什么，还是不要打扰别人吧。。等时辰对时，就到神台那儿拜拜，那时应该是早上三点多。。

拜拜后，就做车上吉隆坡咯。。

在车里想睡，但是都不是很顺利，因为高速公路的路有时不是很平，再说，有一段路是用cement做的，所以很吵。。

到了婆婆家，大概是七点半，看到大伯，还有大伯母，就说‘happy new year’。。说了后，就直接走去婆婆的房间。。那时婆婆正好走出来，就祝贺婆婆‘新年快乐，长命百岁’。。然后，就直接进房间躺在婆婆床上。。

过后你们觉得发生什么了？哈哈。。当然是我睡着了咯。。睡着时，还是有感觉到有人走进房间，脚步很慢，一定是婆婆咯，她只是进来给我开风扇。。就走出去了。。

睡到十一点才醒，但是却在床上懒得起身！哈哈。。就躺在床上SMS几个朋友祝贺他们新年快乐。。当时，都把SMS打好了，想送给某某人，但是要摁send的时候却摁不下，最后就摁delete了，可能是因为自己没勇气再去面对他吧。。咳。。新年一大早就emo。。同时，有人开门，又时婆婆，她进来就说‘要好好儿照顾自己，要多吃饭，知道吗。。’然后就给了一个红包。。过后，大伯母又进来，给一个红包，然后说“我们要出去拜拜，你去楼下睡吧，三伯到时，就帮他们开门，别让婆婆去开，她脚不好”。。

我就乖乖去楼下沙发躺咯。。很象又睡着了。。但是一听到门铃响！！就急忙起身去开门，让三伯进。。又看见时常被我欺负的堂弟了！！哈哈哈。。又再想等下打wrestling时要如何打他了。。哈哈。。对咯，我是邪恶的小堂哥！！哈哈。。

对了，其实在大家眼里，我还是个长不大的小孩儿哦！！连我堂弟都比我成熟咧。。哈哈。。算了！！我一直都是这样的。。长不大。。一直都改不了。。谁喜欢的就和我做朋友，不喜欢，请说一声，然后请你们滚蛋！！但离开前一定要记得通知我一声啦，因为我不喜欢模模糊糊的感觉，是朋友就是朋友，不是朋友就不是，没有所谓的看象是，却又很象不是的东西，我的字典里没有这种模糊不清的情况。。哈哈。。paiseh...有点离题了。。哈哈。。anyway,这就是我今年的第一天，很普通吧，没什么特别的事发生咯。。。

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