Got Into A Fight With A Friend - Song of the Day Dedicated To You

I recently got into some issues with a very close friend of mine whom I hold dearly as my other close friends even though he and I only knew each other for a very short period and the way we came to know each other is rather out of the norm also. Nonetheless, I treat him no less than my dear friend.

I don’t really understand what actually happened that caused so many misunderstandings to crop up between us. I tried so hard to avoid the misunderstandings, yet it somehow still found its way into our friendship.

Was it something that I’ve done? Or was it something that I’ve said?

I tried so hard making sure everything was laid out nicely so that he wouldn’t feel like I was forcing him. Yet, the more I tried, the more he took it as I was forcing him to do/say something. Our minds seem to work in different directions and never meet at all.

I’ve no idea why he has such a negative impression of me and why he always thinks that I do things or say things with bad intentions. It totally sucks when you are sincerely nice to someone and the person gives you the impression that you have some sort of ulterior motives. The more I try to be considerate about his situation, his needs and his friends, the more he thinks I'm selfish. Why? I seriously don't know.

I know I remember a lot of things, but I can’t seem to remember when we started losing the courage to speak to each other freely and happily. We used to bicker a lot but it was done on friendly terms without negative intentions, but now we seem to pick on each other so much that it feels like we are no longer friends. Somehow it feels like when he speaks to me, there is always a lot of information which has been removed from the conversation, it feels like he is purposely lying to me or maybe trying to conceal something. I'm trying very hard to maintain my trust to this friend but it is not easy. I once told him "When I give someone my trust, I give it without suspecting the person of any evil intentions, but when the person is suspicious, then the person will get no trust at all from me, because I don't want to get hurt, nobody wants to get hurt anyway". I'm trying very hard to keep the latter situation from happening. At the same time, I get the feeling that he thinks I'm lying too. Why? I don't understand either. What he thinks I'm lying about also I don't know.

All I can say is:

“I’m sorry if I’ve done something wrong along the journey when we knew each other…”

But anyway, I’m leaving that as a past…

Here, I dedicate this song to you… Thank you... Take care...

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A mean reply, so I scream
Another fight about nothing at all
And then we cry and forgive
Promising that we will never fall again

I know this much is true

Hey

Little by little
I think we'll understand this
Little by little
I think we'll comprehend it
Little by little
You'll take me as I am yeah
Little by little

It'll take some time to find it out
To make a change, you gotta change your mind
Cause it's hard enough to get a grip
It's hard as it is without us being left behind

*Chorus*

I don't care
If you don't say it
I don't care
‘Cause I know it
No, we don't care

It'll take some time to find it out
To make a change, you gotta change your mind

000101

Looking at the figure, what do you understand or what would you think of?

‘The one and only?’

Or

‘A lot of something?’

Hehe…

To me, it’s just simple, it kinda became my lucky number.

While I was looking at my English test results, I suddenly noticed that my test number is ‘000101’!!! Haha… I totally didn’t notice this at all even though I was filling up all the question papers with this number during the exam.

I’ve never gotten such a nice number before. So, I guess this number will bring me luck in the near future! Hopefully… Hehe… *fingers crossed & praying hard*

祸从口出

昨天我真正地明白了这个成语的意义！哈哈。。

在和KC聊天时，看见了一本外国日记簿，就问是不是他的。

他回答说“不是啦，酱看得起我啊！是那个有狐臭的！！”

我一时之间都不知道他指的是谁。过后才明白是V。

然后，KS就走过来说‘你的honey在BSC那儿！’

我们也不明白这位honey到底是谁。就过去看看，才发现，原来是V!!!哦my天！！！哈哈。。。 KC闯祸了。。哈哈。

谁先走比较好？(Who should leave first?) - Completed

前几天，和圣龙聊到一个问题：

“你想自己先死，还是关心你的人先死？”

你们会怎么回答呢？

有些人会回答说“我希望我关心的人先走一步”；原因是因为不想这些自己关心的人因自己的离去而伤心，不想看到这些自己关心的人伤心流泪，承受着有人离去的伤痛。

另一些则会希望自己先离去。因为不想自己承受因看着身边关心的人一个又一个地离去而孤单寂寞。你们觉得这种想法会不会有点儿自私呢？因为他们宁愿让自己关心的人伤心也不想自己去承受孤单寂寞。

其实也不能说这些人自私。因为孤零零的感受真的不是很好过。看着自己心爱关心的人离去也的确是件很痛苦的事。像留言的Cai Hong，有些人希望自己先走一步不是因为怕承受伤痛，而是希望心爱的人能够继续地生活下去，享受人生。

我的答案呢？我的答案是有点儿自私咯。因为有两个答案：

（一）如果是我关心又关心我的人，我希望他们先走一步；原因是我不想他们因失去我而伤心。虽然我知道我会因他们的离去，没有他们在我生变陪伴我而感到伤心流泪，但我宁愿自己去背着这些伤痛也不想看到这些关心我的人难过。

（二）如果是我关心却不承认我存在的人，那么，我希望我自己先走一步；我承认这答案是有一种自私的念头。既然他们都不当我是一会儿事，即使我走了，他们也不会有一丝丝的思念或惋惜。但是他们的离去却会让我伤感。那么倒不如我先走，那么我就不必一个人承受这些痛苦。

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I was chatting with Sheng Loong the other day about this question:

“Do you want to die before the ones who love you or do you prefer them to leave first?”

What is your answer?

Some of you would hope those who care for you will leave a step earlier as you do not wish to see them feeling sad for your passing.

On the other hand, some of you would prefer that you leave earlier. Reason being you do not wish to suffer from the loneliness when the ones you love leave you one by one. But is such thinking considered selfish? Letting those who care for you weep of your passing?

It can’t really be said as being selfish as it is a truth that loneliness can be a very painful feeling to deal with. Some people as Cai Hong (a blogger who left a comment) would choose to leave earlier because they wish the ones they love to continue living on, enjoying the beauty of life.

Now, how about my answer? My answer is a little selfish because there are two:

(1) When facing the ones whom I love and care for me at the same time. I hope they leave earlier than I. The reason is I don’t want them to feel the sadness of losing someone whom they care for and bear that pain for the rest of their lives. Even though I know that their passing and the fact that they will never be here by my side anymore is extremely saddening for me, but I would rather bear this pain by myself than to let them feel the lost.

(2) When facing the ones whom I love yet do not care for me. I hope I can leave earlier than them. I have to admit that this is a rather selfish answer. But since I’m a nobody to them, even if I leave this world first, I doubt they would missed my presence and feel sad for me. But if they happen to leave before me, I’m sure I would be devastated. Hence, it would be much better that I leave this world first, as I don’t have to bear this suffering by myself.

Hehe.. so that’s my answer… What a crappy post! Hahaha.. but a real interesting question to think about I must say…

Golden Years

Lucy sent me this email which is kinda nice to read.. enjoy...

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I would never trade my amazing friends,
my wonderful life,
my loving family,
for less gray hair or a flatter belly.

As I've aged, I've become kinder to myself,
and less critical of myself.
I've become my own friend.
I don't chide myself for eating that extra cookie,
or for not making my bed,
or for buying that silly cement gecko that I didn't need,
but looks so avante garde on my patio.
I am entitled to a treat, to be messy, to be extravagant.

I have seen too many dear friends leave this world too soon;
before they understood the great freedom that comes with aging.

Whose business is it if I choose to read
or play on the computer until 4 AM and sleep until noon?
I will dance with myself to those wonderful tunes of the 60 &70's,
and if I, at the same time, wish to weep over a lost love ... I will.

I will walk the beach in a swim suit that is stretched over a bulging body,
and will dive into the waves with abandon if I choose to,
despite the pitying glances from the jet set.

They, too, will get old.
I know I am sometimes forgetful.
But there again, some of life is just as well forgotten.
And I eventually remember the important things.

Sure, over the years my heart has been broken.
How can your heart not break when you lose a loved one,
or when a child suffers,
or even when somebody's beloved pet gets hit by a car?
But broken hearts are what give us strength and understanding and compassion.
A heart never broken is pristine and sterile and will never know the joy of being imperfect.

I am so blessed to have lived long enough to have my hair turning gray,
and to have my youthful laughs be forever etched into deep grooves on my face.
So many have never laughed,
and so many have died before their hair could turn silver.

As you get older, it is easier to be positive.
You care less about what other people think.
I don't question myself anymore.
I've even earned the right to be wrong.

So, to answer your question, I like being old.
It has set me free. I like the person I have become.
I am not going to live forever,
but while I am still here, I will not waste time lamenting what could have been,
or worrying about what will be.
And I shall eat dessert every single day(if I feel like it).

MAY OUR FRIENDSHIP NEVER COME APART ESPECIALLY WHEN IT'S STRAIGHT FROM THE HEART!

MAY YOU ALWAYS HAVE A RAINBOW OF SMILES ON YOUR FACE AND IN YOUR HEART FOREVER AND EVER! FRIENDS FOREVER!

Tree of Love

I came across this article which talks about the meaning of ‘Love’ which I find very meaningful. As the article is originally written in Mandarin, I shall translate and re-post it here. Ownership of the post still remains with the original author i.e. B.L. aka To-Zero.

What is Love?

Ingredients for ‘Love’:
1. Selflessness
2. Accommodation
3. Sacrifice
4. Devotion

Does one have the right to love another when he possesses all the four ingredients? The answer is ‘No’. But why having these four ingredients still doesn’t entitle one to love?

Anyone who is questioned about the meaning of ‘Love’ would easily provide the four ingredients as the answer. If we portray ‘Love’ as a tree, the four ingredients will only be the fruits of the ‘Tree of Love’. Hence, we have all made a grave mistake. We remember only the tastiness of the fruits, but we forgot that the fruits grew on the tree, and the tree was nourished by the roots. If there were not roots, then how would there be fruits?

Since selflessness, accommodation, sacrifice & devotion are but the fruits of the Tree of Love (The tree trunk being ‘courage’), then what is the root? The answer is ‘sincerity’.

‘Sincerity’ is the source of nourishments, with the tree trunk (i.e. courage) as the support for the entire Tree of Love, only then, will the four fruits grow. To love, is a noble act, which most people do not realize! We can selflessly love someone, we can selflessly make sacrifices for someone, we can selflessly accommodate the ones who hurt us, we can selflessly devote ourselves for the ones we love, but all these are not crucial. The crucial thing is how long can the love (relationship) which you have devoted last? Normally, ‘love’ does not last due to the lack of courage to love (only having the roots [sincerity], yet without the trunk [courage], the four fruits of love will never grow). When you are prepared to love a person, you must also be prepared to be hurt.

After a hurtful event, one may start to be afraid of such hurtful experience and without courage, one will not be able to continue loving another person. It is meaningless to love a person and then give it up halfway. True love is regardless of how painful and hurtful things can be, you will still continue to love the person whom you have always loved even though the person hurts you, to love for the sake of loving, and hoping your love ones live happily.

Such people have tremendous amount of courage to love, because they understand the need to love until the end of time, and they have also prepared themselves for the pain which may come during the journey of loving someone. Only by having such courage, can they love the ones they care forever. Only by having such courage, can one truly understand the true meaning of selflessness, accommodation, sacrifice & devotion.

Now, which type of person are you?

Related Links:
- 愛的根本元素(被人們遺忘的愛之秘密關鍵) = B.L. aka To-Zero (Original Author)
- 心的报告4(爱之树）by B.L = pcbon (Adapted Post)
- 万莉对我说爱
- 放手
- 顺其自然 / 随缘

************Original Post by BL aka To-Zero**************

愛的元素一:無私
愛的元素二:包容
愛的元素三:付出
愛的元素四:奉獻

綜合以上四個就算有了愛的資格了嗎?不,還不夠資格!為甚麼?不是說愛是付出,無私,包容和奉獻嗎?這四個我都已經具備了啊?為甚麼還不具資格去愛人?

問問一下你身邊的人愛是甚麼?以上四元素的解答應該很容易就出來!可是以上四元素只是"愛之樹"的果實,我們都犯了一個通病,就是品嘗水果之時只記住水果 的鮮甜美味,卻忘了水果是樹上生長的,而樹木是靠根部滋養的,沒有了根的滋養,樹哪能生出果實來!

那麼既然無私,包容,付出,奉獻都只是愛之樹的果實(愛之樹的樹身是"勇氣"),那麼愛之樹的根又是甚麼呢?其實很簡單,愛之樹的根就是"真心" 樹根"

真心"是養分的來源,再加上樹之身"勇氣"去支持整棵"愛之樹",愛之樹的四大果實才能結出來,讓別人享用! 去愛人是一件很神聖的事,很多人並不知道!我們可以很容易無私地愛人,無私地為所愛的人付出,無私地包容傷害我們的人,無私地為所愛的人奉獻,但是這一切 一切皆不是關鍵!關鍵在於你所付出的愛能不能持久? 而不能持久的愛往往是因為少了一份愛人的勇氣(只有樹根"真心",若無法生出樹身"勇氣",愛之四大果實將無法生出來),當你準備去愛人的時候,你就必須 做好被傷害的準備.

普通人往往一次,兩次的傷害不打緊,但是沒了勇氣你就無法承受這些傷害,無法再繼續愛人!愛人只愛到一半就放棄了,這種愛人的方式一點 意義也沒有! 真正的愛是不管你受到多大的打擊和傷害,你還是會不顧一切的去愛那些所有你愛但卻又傷害你的人,目的只是為去愛人而愛人,希望自己所愛的人都能帶著祝福好 好的活著,此類人都帶著無比的勇氣去愛人,因為他們知道愛人就要愛到底,也早已為在愛人的過程當中可能受到的傷害做好準備,這樣才能持久地去愛自己所要愛 的人! 這樣有勇氣的去愛人才是真正地無私,包容,付出和奉先,也才有意義! 現在就問問你自己,你是屬於哪一樣?

Thank You Bon Family

Bon
- Sincere gratitude to you for extending an invitation to me even though it was your classmate gathering.

Uncle
- Thank you for the gathering.
- Enjoyed the talk with you.
- Really a wise person in business and great host.

Auntie
- Grateful for the wonderful food.
- Definitely a great host.
- Wonderful talking to you.
- LOL~~ I've been to UM a few times.
- It was great trying to remember about the layout of UM's faculties with you and life there, using the plate with secret recipe cake as the football field.
- Amazing to know about your university life.
- It was really unexpected about your extra activities in university! Salute!
- OH YA!!! Thanks for the compliment about me & Bon's age difference!! Hahaha...
- And such a beautiful voice...
- Seems like I talked too much, still got a lot of topics to list out. Hehe... But won't list everything here, somethings should remain a secret, that's how Bon likes it...

HM
- Thanks for being such a nice and friendly host.
- Enjoyed talking to you.
- Thanks for serving me drinks just now.
- Hope you find your true passion.

Ley
- Nice to meet you.
- You don't seem as fat as you think.
- Do consider passing me your clothes since I wear size 'M' NOW!!!!. Hehe..

Leong
- Thank you so much for accompanying me there.

Kensen
- Nice meeting you again & best of luck in Russia.

Bryan
- Interesting bioremediation dialogue. Nice meeting you.
- You seemed shocked when I guess you are from St. Joseph.

Girls
- Nice to finally meet Layyen, the 'guy' of the blog.
- The rest don't know who you all are since Bon didn't bother introducing. LOL~~

Zero-to-Zero & Hong Lin
- Nice meeting you two.
- Zero-to-Zero: Hope you find your favored job.
- Nice chatting with you.
- You are a very knowledgeable person. Friendly too.

Sunway的眼泪

当Adeline（Student Service Officer)决定离开双威回砂巴时，
其实心里没什么感觉，
因为我很少和她打交道，
只说过几句话，
一起吃过一顿饭，
但是她最后一天在双威时，
学院为她做了个送别排对，
排对里播放了一些有关Adeline的照片，
虽然和她不熟，
但也知道她待人真诚，没有像他人的心计，
看着看着心里也觉得有点冷冷的感觉，
为她将要离开的事实感到有点伤心，
坐在我身旁的Lucy早就受不了哭了出来，
本来还在忙着安慰Lucy，
但还是搞得我忍不住掉下了眼泪。

想起自己离开Sunway的那天，
让我忘不了当天发生的两件事。

一是和玛丽雅老师有关，
她平常都只是呈现出冷酷无情的表情，
而且还时常对其他师生百般刁难，
所以很多老师学生都不是很喜欢她。
当天，
玛丽雅老师突然把我召到她房里，
我本来还在猜到底发生了什么事，
但万万没想到的是，
她突然和我说些鼓励又劝解的话，
说着说着就哭了，
简直是吓着我了，
一向来表现得刚硬无比的玛丽雅老师，
竟然在我面前哭了出来，
看见她的眼泪，
我感到很伤心，
我不是为她伤心，
而是为自己而伤心，
因为我一向来都不喜欢她，
从第一天看见她就觉得她是个母老虎，
但她本性其实不是我心想的那样，
而是很温柔，很关心别人的，
可惜我因为自己直觉错了，
而没有去好好儿认识她。

第二是为我掉下眼泪的Mr.Kow，
他是位五十八岁，全学院最年长的老师，
当我要走出学院是，
他向我走来说，
人生的道路本就不平，
很多曲折不容易走的路，
所以离开以后的路要好好儿走，
说到这儿他也哭了出来，
看了我都傻眼，
他本就像那种很普通的男生，
应该不会像我那么感性，
所以没想到他会哭出来，
又问我：“你离开后最想念的是什么？”
我答：“在这儿结交的朋友”
他说：“如果真的是朋友，那么你和他们都永远是朋友，所以要记得保持联络”。

离开Sunway的那天，
不知道是因为那儿没有我真正值得留念的人事，
还是我太讨厌那地方，
所以我都没有掉下眼泪，
直到Daniel说了一句话，
一句话我永生难忘的话，
有可能他只是说说而已，
但我依然难忘记。。。

"Even though we only managed to spend six hours with you,
But it is definitely enough for us to remember you forever"

Daniel

Related Links:-
- 三次的离别

三次的离别

行李箱都整理好了，
和几位好友聚集在一起，
大家说了些道别的话，
“记得要保持联络哦，不能忘记我哦，我们会在见面的”，
一群就自己驾车回家，
另一群就坐火车到KL去。
*这就是第一次离别。。

到了总站，
看着彼此的样子，
大家就微笑一下，
又说了“记得要保持联络哦，有空时就出来一起喝茶吧”，
几个人就转车到机场去，
我们几人则转车到Pudu巴士总站。
*这就是第二次的离别。。

到了Pudu总站，
大家都坐下等巴士，
我去买水果吃，也顺便买了给其他人，
大家拿到水果就静静地吃，
感觉时间过得很快，
从认识到离别，
在感觉上，时间过得太快了，
时间到了，车程表上出现了各自的巴士号码，
看着彼此，大家再次微笑，
吸了一口气，再次微笑，
“保持联络哦，电话号码都有哦，记得SMS还是email噢！”，
走到通往各自巴士的楼梯，
招手，微笑，
走下了楼梯，再也没有见到彼此了。
*这就是第三次的离别。。

每当离别时，大家往往都会说，会再见，保持联络，
但是真的能做到吗？
人生往往都被命运摆布，
很难由我们控制，
离别之前的好友，
有几个还有机会见到呢？
一个在Finland，
两个在日本，
一个在伦敦，
一个在马六甲，
三个在槟城，
一个在沙巴，
两个在砂劳越，
一个在吉打，
五个在吉隆坡。
见到面的只有两个，而且是去年八月时去找pcbon时才有机会见到的。
其他的，不管怎么安排时间都无法见到面，
有的是因发生了某些事而永远都没机会再见到面了，
人的生命真的很脆弱，说走就走。

自从小时发生的一件事后，
不管是和谁道别的时候，
即使不是好友，但只要是真诚的人，
我都有一种不好的感觉，不舍得的感受，
我总是舍不得人家离开，
总是没勇气看别人离去，
是自己太过懦弱吗？
还是自己太感性？
已经很尽力地去控制自己的情绪，
但是每次都失败。
是我没用吗？
不管原因是什么，
我真的很想你们，
在新的地方，我没法找到像你们这样真诚的朋友，
真的很希望还在的我们真的有机会再见面。。。

Related Links:
- Sunway的眼泪

Harry Potter 6 - Amazing!!

Quote of the day:

"Memory is all that we have,
Without them, our future is blind,
We leave our future purely to chances"

Professor Dumbledore

None of the Harry Potter movies have disappointed me before. Neither has this. The movie was great!

I just love the way Professor Dumbledore talks, so much wisdom. Not forgetting his amazing wizardry powers which is only matched by the Dark Lord.

This time, the story was rather slow as the story revolved more around the personal lives of Ron, Hermione, Ginny & Harry. Not so much about the evil Dark side which is always trying to destroy Harry.

The most memorable scene was when Dumbledore decided to sacrifice himself for mankind by drinking the potion in order to obtain the Horcrux. Being poisoned, he still manages to show his superb power in wizardry by killing off the zombies! Cool...

To be misunderstood is not easy

Regarding Professor Severus Snape, I understand how he feels. To be misunderstood by everyone when he is doing good is not an easy journey. The hardship he has to go through by himself, to handle the way how people look at him, to face the accusations friends throw at him is not something easy to handle and shouldn't be bore by anyone.

We all know how it ended for Professor Snape in the end. Which is rather a pity. To save the ones he care for in the dark where nobody can see and appreciate until the end of his life is truly a sad story.

My Medical Conditions - Shocking!!

When I went to the doctor, he looked at me and asked me what was wrong. So I described to him that I had a fever, maculopapular rashes around the eyes which spread everywhere, cough, sore throat, conjunctivitis & coryza, all which leads to measles or the mobillivirus.

He agreed that I've all the symptoms, but also said that it is impossible as I should have been vaccinated as a child. So, what do I have?? The answer is, he also don't know. He started to interrogate about possible adverse drug reaction; which was impossible as I'm not under medication. Then he wanted me to tell him exactly which symptoms came first and what happened then. Even after 30 min of interrogation, and checking my temperature, my major lymph nodes, he still could not pin point the problem. So, he decided to send me for a full blood count.

Which i did, then I saw the report, written at the bottom "8% Atypical Mononucleocytes". Which ermmm sound not too good. Hahaha... Then the doctor looked at the report and say, it's EBV... in order words, Infectious Mononucleosis Syndrome!!!

EBV?!?!?! That's a name I thought I would only hear in my textbooks!! For God's Sake!!! How the hell did I get this thing in my blood?!?! Epstein Barr Virus... Holy Shit!!!

I seriously couldn't believe it. I know many people do research in this virus. And I know it's one thing we learn in our textbooks! But, oh come on!!!!! INFECTING ME?!!?!?! LOL~~~ Unbelievable!!!! Should really go buy TOTO!! hehe..

Anyway, my entire body is feeling the full effects of it now, if you look at me. You can see it so obviously. But anyway, at least I finally found out what is affecting me.. hehe

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- 皮肤比哥哥的还多豆豆！

皮肤比哥哥的还多豆豆！

天啊！！这到底是怎么啦！！！！

我的皮肤本来是滑溜溜的，怎么会变成这样？？我的auntie一向来都羡慕我说我皮嫩柔滑。可是现在！！天啊！！！！！

早上起身时，发现脸上有点红斑。反正不是很严重，只是一点点而已，本来也以为可能是自己要发烧了，所以才没去理它。

但是到了下午，经部也开始有了红斑。

晚上回到家后，因为天气热，就脱衣去冲凉。哪儿知道，站在镜子前时，哇靠！！！！整身都是！！！多到有点恐怖咯！！

还记得上次看见哥哥背部也有很多豆豆，就跟他说，他回头看却看不到，像只小狗在转圈圈追自己的尾巴似的，他就到镜子那儿看，也看不到，都已经指给他看了，其实不用指咯，整个背部都是。但也不能怪他啦，人家四眼田鸡一个，要看小豆豆是不容易咯。。

但是现在重点不是那坏哥哥，重点是我！！！为什么我的皮肤会比他的还糟！！！救命！！！！！豆豆没痒痒就不是问题，但是不知道为什么，老是想呕，还有体温起伏不定。有点儿辛苦。。

How long does it take for me to die?

Doctor: “Just press on this for 5 minutes”

Ted: “Ok...”

Doctor: “Isn’t it amazing how our body works? There’s a mechanism in place that will prevent excessive bleeding which will cause death. Do you know how it works?”

Ted: “Roughly, the platelets causes coagulation”

Doctor: “Yes, the platelets stops the bleeding. Even if you cut your main arteries, the vessels will go into spasm. Everything will be so tight that the blood can’t flow.”

Ted: “Oh I see..”

Doctor: “Yes, that’s why it is so stupid if you cut your wrist. Do you think it is easy to die that way? The blood won’t flow fast enough. You will need like 18 hours before you lose enough blood to die. Unless if you sit in a hot tub to keep your entire body relax..”

Ted: “Hmm.. Ok, next time I will jump off the building then...”

Doctor: “Haha...”

Isabelle: “Wei... You don’t simply say lor, my friend jump off 9 storeys, and he is still alive without much injury, this kind of thing very hard to say wan...”

Ted: “Har?! Why did he jump off the building??”

Isabelle: “Oh! I’m not very sure also, he was quarreling with the girlfriend, then he just somehow couldn’t take it, feel very frustrated, then he just jump off in front of her, no warning no nothing, just jump... Hahaha.. but he didn’t die, fully recovered..”

Ted: “Ok... I guess everyone in the world must start thinking of a new way to die... Hahaha”

Moral of the story: If you want to kill yourself, don’t cut your wrist, it’s painful and takes too long! LOL~~ Just kidding... The real moral of the story is – if it’s not your time, you will not die no matter what you do... Hehe... Even then, please try to refrain yourself from trying to kill yourself... Hahaha...

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只有你方便时，我才会存在

在读一位朋友的blog时，读到了这句话：

‘。。。你对我做的,只是在你方便的范围内。。。’

让我感到很伤心。

和你们关心的人在一起时，
你们会不会觉得他们为你做的只是在他们方便范围内而已？
他们很像永远都不会为你多做一些，为你多付出一些。

只有在他们方便时，
他们才会想到你，
只有在他们方便时，
他们才会为你做些事，
只有在他们方便时，
他们才会为你付出。
只有在他们得空时，
才可以谈，
他们若不得空时，
就全都免谈。

我这么说，你们会不会觉得我要求太多？
所以会劝我说，不要要求太多，这样子别人才不会觉得有压力。
但是，仔细想一想，是我要求太多，还是人家太自私呢？
一切都只想要给自己方便而已。

或者你们会说，是我笨，傻傻为别人做太多，
为别人着想太多，才给自己带来太多委屈，
因此而觉得被别人伤害。
所以会劝我，不要为别人做太多事，
要多想一想自己。
但我若这么做，我会不会也算是自私呢？
因为我觉得为自己关心的人，不管是朋友或亲人，
付出一些些，牺牲自己一些，应该是理所当然的，是值得的。

你们想想，大家都有各自的生活，
自己的时间表，今天该做什么，明天该去哪儿，后天该处理的事物。
要找到一个大家都刚好是空闲又没事做的时间简直是难上加难，
即使空闲，有些人也只想留在家中休息而已。
那么，是不是完全都没法为别人做些事呢？

所以，我觉得，如果很极端地把自己的‘方便’看成是一切重点，
那么时间久了，身边关心我们的人，都会一一被伤害的。

我知道有很多人都会说：‘人不为自，天诛地灭’。
但是，我觉得这种想法有点自私。
但我也知道有些人会说，这是生存在这竞争力强的社会里的法则。
但是，你们觉得这法则适合运用在我们关心和关心我们的人吗？

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Avatar: The Last Airbender

Wooooooo!!! I just finished watching the entire Avatar: The Last Airbender anime. And I give it 5 stars!!! Yes, it's a great anime to watch. This is one of the very few and rare anime/cartoon series which is both entertaining and also educational. In every episode, there is always a concept/philosophy/moral value which is introduced by one of the character. You learn some great values while being entertain by a good cartoon.

Generally, the anime revolved around a world which is divided into four great nations, namely the Earth, Fire, Air & Water Kingdom. In each of these kingdoms, there are people who can manipulate the element which signifies their kingdom. Those who can manipulate fire are called Firebenders, while the people who can manipulate earth are called Earthbenders, the same applies to the airbenders and waterbenders. There is one who is gifted and will be able to master all four elements, hence he/she is called the Avatar.
These four nations used to live in harmony with each other until the Fire Lord decided that he wanted to conquer the entire world. Each element can draw extra power from certain sources. For example, the waterbenders are most powerful during a full moon as they can draw power from the moon which itself can control the water, by raising & lowering the tides. The former Fire Lord Sozin used the period when a comet passed by earth to launch a massive attack against the other nations. The comet which came so close to earth produced so much heat that it gave the Fire Lord and his firebenders so much power until they were able to defeat most of the nation, causing an imbalance towards the power of the elements. The comet was later named Sozin's Comet. Back then Avatar Roku was Sozin's bestfriend and due to his love towards the friendship, he did not stop Sozin in the beginning, which also let to his own death when Sozin left Avatar Roku during a volcano eruption.

The Fire Nation dominated the other nations for 100 years. Then it is left to Aang, a young monk who was destined to be the new Avatar to stop the new Fire Lord Ozai who was planning to annihilate the remainder of the other nations when the Sozin's Comet returns.
The story talks about Aang's journey around the world to learn and master the other elements, water, earth & fire before he faced the Fire Lord Ozai. During his journey, he met many friends who later join his battle. They were Katara, Sokka, Toph, Zuko, Suki, General Iroh, King Bumi, etc.

I truly love this anime series due to the educational properties which come with it. The Masters who taught Aang the elements, the Guru which taught him to control the Seven Chakra, General Iroh who was trying to help his nephew Prince Zuko to find his trueself, all gave very meaningful philosophies/concepts within the episodes which all of us can learn and practise.

Nice show, really worth watching!!! For those who are interested, you can watch it here> (http://www.watch-avatar-online.com/)... Enjoy!!!

Sharon Says She Is Man!!!

Sharon says she is MAN!!!!

hahaha... what u guys think???

She say a person who is MAN is considered cute?!!?!?!

OMG!!! She must be crazy!! haha

The Seven Chakras

"You must first bring balance within yourself,

before you can bring balance to the world"

Earth Chakra:
- Located in the base of the spine
- It deals with survival
- It's blocked by fear
- To open this chakra, we must be clear of what our fears are and surrender our fears

Water Chakra:
- It deals with pleasure
- It's blocked by guilt
- To open this chakra, we must understand what guilt we have and what we blame ourselves for, then accept the reality that this things happened, but don't let them cloud & poison our energy, if we want to be a positive influence to the world, we need to forgive ourselves

Fire Chakra:
- Located in the stomach
- It deals with real power
- It's blocked by shame
- To open this chakra, we must know what we are ashamed of, what is the biggest disappointment in ourselves, and accept it

Fourth Chakra:
- Located in the heart
- It deals with love
- It's blocked by grief
- To open this chakra, we must lay out all of our grieves in front of us, even though we have suffered a great lost, but love is a form of energy, and it swirls around us, the love of the people who care for us has never left this world, it is still inside our heart even though these people are no longer around us, and will reborn in a form of new love

Sound Chakra:
- Located in the throat
- It deals with truth
- It's blocked by lies, the ones we tell ourselves
- To open this chakra, we cannot lie about our own nature, we must accept who we are

Light Chakra:
- Located at the center of the forehead
- It deals with insight
- It's blocked by illusion, the greatest illusion in this world is the illusion of separation
- To open this chakra, we must understand that things that are separate and different are actually one and the same

Thought Chakra:
- Located at the crown of the head
- It deals with pure cosmic energy
- It's blocked by earthly attachment
- To open this chakra, we must meditate on what attaches us to this world, then let all of those attachment go, let them flow down the river, forgotten, learn to let go

Once you have opened all the seven chakra in your body, you will have full control of yourself, you will be fully aware of what you are doing and possess unimaginable powers...

暧昧

Personal Display Message> 拜一：“哥。。。”

Personal Display Message> 拜二：“哥。。。我想。。。”

Ａｍａｎｄａ：“ｅｒｍ．．．你的Ｐｅｒｓｏｎａｌ　Ｄｉｓｐｌａｙ　Ｍｅｓｓａｇｅ很暧昧叻。。哈哈哈哈”

我：“Ｃａｎ　ｙｏｕ　ｐｌｅａｓｅ　ｄｅｆｉｎｅ　ｗｈａｔ　ｙｏｕ　ｍｅａｎ　ｂｙ　暧昧？哈哈。。”

Ａｍａｎｄａ：“Ｉ　ｊｕｓｔ　ｆｅｅｌ　ｉｔ　ｉｓ　暧昧。”

我：“Ｉ　ｋｎｏｗ，ｂｕｔ　ｗｈａｔ　ｙｏｕ　ｍｅａｎ　ｂｙ　暧昧？Ｔｈｅｒｅ　ａｒｅ　ａ　ｌｏｔ　ｏｆ　ｍｅａｎｉｎｇｓ　ｔｏ　暧昧，你指的是哪一个？一，模糊；二，关系不可告人；三，不是情侣，关系却很亲密。。ｗｈｉｃｈ　ｏｎｅ？Ｂｙ　ｔｈｅ　ｗａｙ，　ｔｈｅ　ｓｅｎｔｅｎｃｅ　ｉｓｎ＇ｔ　ｃｏｍｐｌｅｔｅ　ｙｅｔ．．ＬＯＬ～～”

Ａｍａｎｄａ：“Ｓｏ　ｗｈａｔ＇ｓ　ｔｈｅ　ｃｏｍｐｌｅｔｅ　ｓｅｎｔｅｎｃｅ？”

我：“Ｉ　ｗｉｌｌ　ｒｅｖｅａｌ　ｉｔ　ｔｏｍｏｒｒｏｗ”

Ａｍａｎｄａ：“Ｂｕｔ　Ｉ＇ｍ　ｎｏｔ　ｏｎｌｉｎｅ　ｔｏｍｏｒｒｏｗ，　ｙｏｕ　ＳＭＳ me the full sentence...”

我：“ok.. hehe...”

Personal Display Message> 拜三：“哥。。。我想。。。一拳pok过去给你！！！哈哈！！！”

SMS to Amanda:"完整的句子是（哥。。。我想。。。一拳pok过去给你！！！哈哈！！！）用个平常心去面对世界，会让世界看得更简单美丽。心思越复杂，人也可能变得更有心计。"

Amanda Replied SMS: "Funny lah u.. So unexpected."

What I'm trying to say is my Display Message was supposed to be very innocent and nothing more than that. But using a sophisticated mind with wild imaginations, people can think too far, diverting from the initial intentions. It is undeniable that human beings have sophisticated minds. Hence sometimes it is hard to think in a simple way. Some people keep preaching to use 平常心 (Simple mind) to see the world and to handle situations, but from this example (there are a lot of other examples which I don't really want to list them all out) shows that a simple thought can be seen as evil intentions by others who have a complicated mind even though they think they use a simple mind to treat people.

Sometimes, having such a sophisticated mind, people can turn to be very scheming and scary too. 有时以一个平常心去对待世界未必是件坏事。。。

The moral of the story:

"Don't jump to conclusion about something or someone or somebody's intentions/motives before you really know what is going on.."

Because if you do jump to conclusion, then it is just like you have given the person a death sentence. 还不知道事实就已经判了我死刑。。。

*ok, gotta run now, need to chase the shuttle bus to go back...

PS: Thank your Charmaine for giving me a bottle of Pringles even though I didn't buy your product.. Hehe...

发不出的SMS(歌词Uploaded)

好久没有和他联络了，很想寄个短讯和他聊聊。到了下个月底，就已经是一年完全没好好儿像之前那样聊天说话了。原因到底是什么，虽然他说过，我始终难以理解，只知道是他怪我就对了，可是他怪我的理由，不管是我还是我其他的好友或是他的朋友都无法明白。

短讯写好了。读一读，看是否有打错字，句子是否有语病。看了三遍，应该没问题。可以摁‘发送’了吗？很像不可以，这些话，我很像没资格对他说，他只会说我啰嗦，浪费他的时间。算了吧，还是删除比较安全。

过后，又写了个短讯。看了又看，应该可以发出去了吧。但是，这些问题，以我的地位，很像没有权力去问。问了，他不会答的，不是白问吗，也会得罪他。这SMS也不适合发给他。

这个短讯呢？可以发出去吗？和他说这些事情有什么用？对他来说，可能都只是废话，crap而已。把这笑话发给他可以吗？等下他会不会说我以为我自己是谁，做什么寄这种lame的东西打扰他？

算了吧。与其写这么长的SMS，换来的可能只是像以前那样的沉默，有什么用，受伤的还是自己，自己受伤就算了，还让他不开心，那就真的不好了。就写个短的吧。这一句问候的话，应该谁都可以对他说吧？他应该不会觉得奇怪还是什么的吧。好吧，就摁‘发送’吧。他过后回不回也没什么关系啦。反正只是个废废问候的话而已。

前天我说过，我终于明白自己要的是什么。但是要做到，需要很多勇气，问题是，大多的勇气，在这一年以来都因发生的一切慢慢地消逝了。

这次发出的SMS，用的是我最后剩下那一点点的勇气了。虽然有回应，但是也证明了一点，我真的不懂得如何和这个朋友说话了，因为我完全不知道有什么话可以对他说。

想和你说，
却说不出，
想和你聊，
却没话题，
为何这样，
我不知道，
只能在这部落格里说，对不起。。。

张栋梁 - 我们都有错
作词：陈颖见 @口袋音乐 作曲：陈颖见 @口袋音乐
今晚夜色正浓 我开车慢慢行走
走进一片深秋
地铁出口 起了一座灰色大楼
那么多窗口 那么多灯火
喝酒的人们嬉笑走过

在你离开之后
我像个忙碌街头 忙着擦肩而过
身边的人 稍作了停留 又无影无踪
打烊了以后 夜里安静停泊

我们是不是变得太懦弱
该面对的时候 掉头就走
我们坚持什么 要的是什么
为何 烙了一身伤口

我们是不是变得太薄弱
该解救的时候却一再沉沦
本来相濡以沫 却变成寂寞
我们都有错

再见还是朋友
我们却连个问候 多年后才开口
咖啡店里 你看起来似乎过得不错
可是为什么 说着说着
眼泪开始坠落

我们是不是变得太执着
该快乐的时候铐上枷锁
像夜行的班车 我们各奔西东
安静的消失在夜空

假如分开会是一种解脱
为何直到现在还不断回头
本来相濡以沫 却变成寂寞
我们都有错
我们都没有错 也许只是我

遇到

Darling小俊介绍了这首歌。其实不是新歌，而是个儿蛮久的歌，但是很好听。听着听着，也终于让我明白了一些之前参透不了的事情。

和大家分享一下这首让我这几个星期以来从早听到晚的唯一一首歌。。。遇到

你身上专属的陌生味道
是我确认你存在的目标
不用来回张望了直到
今世我们相隔著一个街角

这么久了,我还是可以看到
感觉得到你对我的重要
不会被天黑天亮打扰
你每一次的温柔我都想炫耀

我们绕了这么一圈才遇到
我比谁都更明白你的重要
这么久了我就决定了
决定了你的手我握了不会放掉

我们绕了这么一圈才遇到
我答应自己不再庸人自扰
因为我要的我自己知道
只要你的肩膀依然让我靠

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I want you to make "10 Promises" for me

I want you to make "10 Promises" for me and keep them, if you can't then I will not stay by your side anymore.

1. Listen carefully to what I have to say.
2. Trust me, I'm always on your side.
3. Play with me a lot.
4. Don't forget that I have feelings too.
5. Let's never fight, because someday I will win.
6. If I don't obey you, it's because I have a good reason to.
7. You have school & friends, but for me, I have only you.
8. Stay as my bestfriend even when I'm old.
9. I will live for only this long, let's make every moment count.
10. Never forget our times together, please keep this in mind. So when my time comes, please be by my side.

信任：从何而来，为何而毁。。

今天到街上去剪头发要负钱时，
从口袋里拿出了一叠一块钱钞票交给那位大叔。
他一拿到钱时，数都没数，就直接塞进了钱柜的小洞里。

他为何那么信任我？
他不怕我会骗他的钱吗？
剪发费一共是七块，
没出门前我已经算好了放进口袋，
但是我可没想到他数都没数就收下了。
虽然七块说多不多，
但是还是他老人家辛辛苦苦赚来的血汗钱呀，
难道他不在意？还是他信任我？

如果说他不在意，
很像不可能咧，
毕竟他得还小店面的租金。

如果说他信任我，
那么，我想知道他为何会信任我？
我们毕竟对彼此都很陌生，
我不知道他家庭背景，
他也不知道我到底是谁，
我只知道他会剪发，
他只知道我是顾客，
所以信任从何而来？

连我自己的朋友都对我存有少许的猜疑，
对我做的事有所怀疑，
那么为何一个不认识我的大叔会信任我呢？
这一点都不逻辑，
到底是怎么一回事？

为什么会有信任，
信任又为什么会被摧毁？
在什么情况下，做了什么，发生了什么会被毁灭而消失？

信任重要吗？
没了信任要怎么办？
要怎么做才能有永恒的信任,真正的信任？

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说话，责任

最近老是听到有人说‘责任’这个词。

我突然想问：

如果一个人之前说出了某些话，然后却不算数，那么这是不是不负责任？

如果一个人把一切都说好了，但过后又不顾他人感受把一切都更改，这算不算不负责任？

如果一个人做出了某些决定，过后又发现是错的，却死都当成什么都没做错过，那么这算不算是没有责任感？

你们认为，能做出这些事的人，是不是没对自己的人格负责，没对自己说过的话负责，没对自己做出的事负责，没对身边关心自己的人负责任？

是不是很没责任感呢？

有个朋友问我：

“一个一心想忘记过去的人，

是真的想往前走，

还是他不敢为自己所做过的错误负责？”

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"We will all remember our past,
because from it,
we learn to move on"

Optimus Prime