人人都说做不倒翁好，不管风吹雨打都不会倒。。但是不倒翁很像不能向前哦！！笨！！！
Tuesday, March 30, 2010
Monday, March 29, 2010
I trust you...
'I trust you'
Does this phrase sound familiar?
Do you say this often?
I doubt so, most of the time, we seldom mouth it, instead we keep it in our hearts.
But is it easy to trust someone or a friend?
How many times did you try to trust someone and you've gotten yourself betrayed?
How often has a fake smile from a person tricked you into believing him?
'Trust' is a two way commitment.
To trust, you will need to first trust the other.
If you do not trust the other, then he will not be able to trust you.
I somehow understood why is it that he can hardly trust people.
Because he doesn't allow others to trust him at the same time.
How much 'fake smile' we put in, that's how much 'fake trust' we get back.
But sometimes, there maybe things we won't want to let out, hence we can just give a fake smile.
And sometimes among friends, we should learn to give a sincere smile rather than a fake one.
I'm amazed at the number of his friends who doesn't trust him.
It is like having two faces.
Smiling in front of him, but behind him, there was another look on their faces.
I guess he didn't know about this.
Or maybe he knew but just put up a fake smile in return.
Why he wants to put up a fake smile?
I have no idea.
Maybe he can't accept the truth that his friends are being fake to him?
Or maybe they are just acting to be nice to him,
So he acts nice in return?
Such a complicated matter...
Does this phrase sound familiar?
Do you say this often?
I doubt so, most of the time, we seldom mouth it, instead we keep it in our hearts.
But is it easy to trust someone or a friend?
How many times did you try to trust someone and you've gotten yourself betrayed?
How often has a fake smile from a person tricked you into believing him?
'Trust' is a two way commitment.
To trust, you will need to first trust the other.
If you do not trust the other, then he will not be able to trust you.
I somehow understood why is it that he can hardly trust people.
Because he doesn't allow others to trust him at the same time.
How much 'fake smile' we put in, that's how much 'fake trust' we get back.
But sometimes, there maybe things we won't want to let out, hence we can just give a fake smile.
And sometimes among friends, we should learn to give a sincere smile rather than a fake one.
I'm amazed at the number of his friends who doesn't trust him.
It is like having two faces.
Smiling in front of him, but behind him, there was another look on their faces.
I guess he didn't know about this.
Or maybe he knew but just put up a fake smile in return.
Why he wants to put up a fake smile?
I have no idea.
Maybe he can't accept the truth that his friends are being fake to him?
Or maybe they are just acting to be nice to him,
So he acts nice in return?
Such a complicated matter...
Saturday, March 27, 2010
Dangerous Places in Melbourne University
There are a few places which are not very good places to be at:-
1. Mechanical Engineering Faculty lane leading to Wilson Hall.
- Seems like a construction worker who was talking on the phone got his phone snatched by somebody in broad day light!! Everybody was too surprised to react to the incident.
2. The main parking space between MDHS & Mechanical Engineering Dept (Main Gate).
- Last year, a student was killed at night when walking home passing by that area.
3. The Howard's Institute (behind MDHS) car park
- Student was attacked by unknown people while walking through the parking area at night.
Thanks to XF for the info.
1. Mechanical Engineering Faculty lane leading to Wilson Hall.
- Seems like a construction worker who was talking on the phone got his phone snatched by somebody in broad day light!! Everybody was too surprised to react to the incident.
2. The main parking space between MDHS & Mechanical Engineering Dept (Main Gate).
- Last year, a student was killed at night when walking home passing by that area.
3. The Howard's Institute (behind MDHS) car park
- Student was attacked by unknown people while walking through the parking area at night.
Thanks to XF for the info.
Friday, March 26, 2010
益者三友，损者三友
好朋友是一本书，他能打开你整个的世界。 物以类聚，人以群分，什么样的人，你只要观察他的社交圈子，从这外在环境，你就能看到他自己内心价值取向。
孔子曰：
孔子曰：
“益者三友, 损者三友, 友直, 友谅, 友多闻, 益矣, 友便辟, 友善柔, 友便佞, 损矣”
‘友直’是指这位朋友要‘正直’，要坦荡，要刚正不阿，一个人不能有谄媚之色，要有种朗朗人格，在世界上顶天立地。这种人是位好朋友因为他的人格可以映校你的人格，他可以在你怯懦的时候，给你勇气。在你犹豫不前的时候，给你果决。
‘友谅’是指这位是宽容的朋友。其实，宽容是一种美德，是世界上是最深沉的一种美德。当我们一不小心犯了过错，或者对他人造成某种伤害的时候，过分的苛责，不如宽容的力量来得更恒久。有时候，最让我们内心受不了的是，在忏悔的时候，没有得到他人的怨气，反而得到淡淡的一种包容。所以，有一个好的朋友，他会给我们内心，增加自省的力量。宽容的朋友，不会使我们堕落，更不会放纵自己，反而会让我们从他人的内心包容上，找到自己的弊病，找到自己的缺失。 所以，有一个宽容的好朋友， 是一种做人的情怀，一种悲悯，就好像是对一花一叶，一草一木的关怀中所折射出的一种耀眼光芒。
‘友多闻’是指有学问的朋友，把你朋友所读过的书的那些间接经验转化成你的直接经验系统。当你感到犹豫彷徨，有所踌躇的时候，到你的朋友那里去，以他的广见博识，为你做一个参考，帮你做出选择。所以， 交一个多闻的朋友，就像打开一本辞典，总能从他人的经验中为自己获得一个借鉴系统。 何谓损友？
‘友便辟’就是性情暴躁的朋友。每个人的生活不一样，有时碰到一件事，你还在迷茫中的时候，你朋友却首先发怒了。社会上一些青少年犯罪，好多都是打群架， 一不小心就会出人命。其实，这种事很少是一个人干的，往往是一群孩子裹挟在一起。他为什么要去呢？哥们义气！这就说明，你遇到的是一个暴躁的朋友。作为成 年世界，不见得要付出打群架的代价。但是一个人，燃烧了一场愤怒，对于我们来讲，只有坏处，没有多少益处。盲目的激情，可能会带来永远无法追回的后果。好朋友之间，应以理性为先，告诉他怎样去过一种没有危险的生活。
这是一个外国故事：讲一个富孀，这位老太太家财万贯，想招一名汽车司机，在全国发招聘广告。千挑万选，在众多的应聘者中，最后选出三人，站在她面前。 她给他们出了一道题：如果我车子前方，是个悬崖，你能把车紧急停在离悬崖多远的地方？第一个司机说，我会紧急刹车把车停在离悬崖一米远的地方。第二个司机 很不服气，说：“我能把车停在离悬崖十公分的地方。”第三个司机说，我不像他们，我只要远远发现悬崖，就会刹车。老太太录取了第三个司机，因为在这个世界 上，技术永远不是最终的保障。人规避风险的理智，才是最根本的前提。第三个司机被录用，不是靠他的逞能，而是靠他的明智。
‘友善柔’，是优柔寡断的朋友。我们知道，过分的优柔寡断，其实，是在浪费你的生命能源。你有一个机会，想辞职，要下海，想跳槽。你去问朋友，朋友说，你再想想吧！你现在的地方也不错，万一你要走了，你的什么什么就要丢掉了。我们有些朋友，在关键的时刻，会给你一种制约的力量，让你觉得还是退一步吧。韩国人对此有一个形象的描述，说世界上有一种怪物，它前脸长头发，后边则是秃脑勺。迎面走过来时，满脸头发，面目不清，不知为何物。等它从你身边走过 去时，你才看清楚，想伸手去抓，因为它后脑勺上没有头发，抓不住了。这东西是什么？它的名字就叫机遇。在这个世界上，机遇就是这么一个怪物，它走过来时， 你心存疑虑。等它要走的时候，你再想去抓就抓不到它了。善柔的朋友往往会耽误你身边的机遇。很多事情，不在于你是做还是不做，而在于你什么时间去做是最有价值的。生活中的很多事情，都是有保质期的。过了保质期，你再去做就没有任何意义了。所以，我们一定不要被优柔寡断的朋友干扰了你的思维。
‘友便佞’这是最坏的一种朋友。大家都知道佞臣之说，佞，就是那种心怀鬼胎的，有心计的，总是以不择手段的方式去谋取个人利益的人。这种心理阴暗的人，往往会打扮出一副善良面孔。由于他内心有所企图，所以他对人的热情，比那些没有企图的人，要高出好几十倍。一不小心，你被这种人利用的话，那么这一生，你就给自己套上了枷锁。如果你不付出惨痛的代价，这个朋友是不会放过你的。其实，这也是在考验我们的眼光，考验我们知人论事的能力。
‘友谅’是指这位是宽容的朋友。其实，宽容是一种美德，是世界上是最深沉的一种美德。当我们一不小心犯了过错，或者对他人造成某种伤害的时候，过分的苛责，不如宽容的力量来得更恒久。有时候，最让我们内心受不了的是，在忏悔的时候，没有得到他人的怨气，反而得到淡淡的一种包容。所以，有一个好的朋友，他会给我们内心，增加自省的力量。宽容的朋友，不会使我们堕落，更不会放纵自己，反而会让我们从他人的内心包容上，找到自己的弊病，找到自己的缺失。 所以，有一个宽容的好朋友， 是一种做人的情怀，一种悲悯，就好像是对一花一叶，一草一木的关怀中所折射出的一种耀眼光芒。
‘友多闻’是指有学问的朋友，把你朋友所读过的书的那些间接经验转化成你的直接经验系统。当你感到犹豫彷徨，有所踌躇的时候，到你的朋友那里去，以他的广见博识，为你做一个参考，帮你做出选择。所以， 交一个多闻的朋友，就像打开一本辞典，总能从他人的经验中为自己获得一个借鉴系统。 何谓损友？
‘友便辟’就是性情暴躁的朋友。每个人的生活不一样，有时碰到一件事，你还在迷茫中的时候，你朋友却首先发怒了。社会上一些青少年犯罪，好多都是打群架， 一不小心就会出人命。其实，这种事很少是一个人干的，往往是一群孩子裹挟在一起。他为什么要去呢？哥们义气！这就说明，你遇到的是一个暴躁的朋友。作为成 年世界，不见得要付出打群架的代价。但是一个人，燃烧了一场愤怒，对于我们来讲，只有坏处，没有多少益处。盲目的激情，可能会带来永远无法追回的后果。好朋友之间，应以理性为先，告诉他怎样去过一种没有危险的生活。
这是一个外国故事：讲一个富孀，这位老太太家财万贯，想招一名汽车司机，在全国发招聘广告。千挑万选，在众多的应聘者中，最后选出三人，站在她面前。 她给他们出了一道题：如果我车子前方，是个悬崖，你能把车紧急停在离悬崖多远的地方？第一个司机说，我会紧急刹车把车停在离悬崖一米远的地方。第二个司机 很不服气，说：“我能把车停在离悬崖十公分的地方。”第三个司机说，我不像他们，我只要远远发现悬崖，就会刹车。老太太录取了第三个司机，因为在这个世界 上，技术永远不是最终的保障。人规避风险的理智，才是最根本的前提。第三个司机被录用，不是靠他的逞能，而是靠他的明智。
‘友善柔’，是优柔寡断的朋友。我们知道，过分的优柔寡断，其实，是在浪费你的生命能源。你有一个机会，想辞职，要下海，想跳槽。你去问朋友，朋友说，你再想想吧！你现在的地方也不错，万一你要走了，你的什么什么就要丢掉了。我们有些朋友，在关键的时刻，会给你一种制约的力量，让你觉得还是退一步吧。韩国人对此有一个形象的描述，说世界上有一种怪物，它前脸长头发，后边则是秃脑勺。迎面走过来时，满脸头发，面目不清，不知为何物。等它从你身边走过 去时，你才看清楚，想伸手去抓，因为它后脑勺上没有头发，抓不住了。这东西是什么？它的名字就叫机遇。在这个世界上，机遇就是这么一个怪物，它走过来时， 你心存疑虑。等它要走的时候，你再想去抓就抓不到它了。善柔的朋友往往会耽误你身边的机遇。很多事情，不在于你是做还是不做，而在于你什么时间去做是最有价值的。生活中的很多事情，都是有保质期的。过了保质期，你再去做就没有任何意义了。所以，我们一定不要被优柔寡断的朋友干扰了你的思维。
‘友便佞’这是最坏的一种朋友。大家都知道佞臣之说，佞，就是那种心怀鬼胎的，有心计的，总是以不择手段的方式去谋取个人利益的人。这种心理阴暗的人，往往会打扮出一副善良面孔。由于他内心有所企图，所以他对人的热情，比那些没有企图的人，要高出好几十倍。一不小心，你被这种人利用的话，那么这一生，你就给自己套上了枷锁。如果你不付出惨痛的代价，这个朋友是不会放过你的。其实，这也是在考验我们的眼光，考验我们知人论事的能力。
Thursday, March 25, 2010
Tuesday, March 23, 2010
XF said "No point to correct others"
XF said:
"I can see you know a lot when I compare you with the others, and what you know is correct, like what you have told me just now, I really didn't know for the past 10 years, but I checked it after you told me and you are correct.
But the problem is: not everybody likes to know that they are wrong. Some people just cannot learn. They will always think they are correct and will dislike you if you tell them they are wrong.
This is how people are over here. So you must be very careful. If they do something wrong, it is their problem, not yours, so don't worry, let them be if you see them doing wrong things, just let them be, the most important thing is you know what you are doing and what you are doing is correct"
Interesting conversation... haha...
"I can see you know a lot when I compare you with the others, and what you know is correct, like what you have told me just now, I really didn't know for the past 10 years, but I checked it after you told me and you are correct.
But the problem is: not everybody likes to know that they are wrong. Some people just cannot learn. They will always think they are correct and will dislike you if you tell them they are wrong.
This is how people are over here. So you must be very careful. If they do something wrong, it is their problem, not yours, so don't worry, let them be if you see them doing wrong things, just let them be, the most important thing is you know what you are doing and what you are doing is correct"
Interesting conversation... haha...
Saturday, March 20, 2010
Thursday, March 18, 2010
Sunday, March 14, 2010
“路遥知马力”没有针对任何人
我最近听到人家在说我的路遥和马力是为了针对某些人。
其实我想和大家分享的事情很简单：
1。感情（友情）就是应该经得起风吹雨打。
2。朋友不管在发生什么事的时候，始终是朋友，能一起克服一切。
3。即使在最难熬的时候，朋友还是会给于最真诚的帮助。
4。朋友虽有吵吵闹闹，互相玩弄的时候，但是在重要的时刻还是会以诚相对。
如果以正面来读这篇文章，就能看出这些意义。
若是以负面来读这篇文章就会对它有偏见，也因此我的善意会变成恶意。。
其实这个故事是在香港新闻节目在报道关于一个青年因误交网友而自杀，播放的，故事挺有意义的，你们不觉得吗？
Related Link:
- http://teddystudent.blogspot.com/2010/03/bon.html
- http://teddystudent.blogspot.com/2010/03/meaning-of-friend-by-daniel-goh.html
其实我想和大家分享的事情很简单：
1。感情（友情）就是应该经得起风吹雨打。
2。朋友不管在发生什么事的时候，始终是朋友，能一起克服一切。
3。即使在最难熬的时候，朋友还是会给于最真诚的帮助。
4。朋友虽有吵吵闹闹，互相玩弄的时候，但是在重要的时刻还是会以诚相对。
如果以正面来读这篇文章，就能看出这些意义。
若是以负面来读这篇文章就会对它有偏见，也因此我的善意会变成恶意。。
其实这个故事是在香港新闻节目在报道关于一个青年因误交网友而自杀，播放的，故事挺有意义的，你们不觉得吗？
Related Link:
- http://teddystudent.blogspot.com/2010/03/bon.html
- http://teddystudent.blogspot.com/2010/03/meaning-of-friend-by-daniel-goh.html
Thursday, March 11, 2010
Bon有‘新鞋子'；我有 '路遥' 和 '马力'
早前有新闻报道过，
有一个年轻人在网上误交损友，
被人骗财骗感情，
最终选择自杀结束了自己的生命。
被朋友出卖，
感觉真的很难受，
所以我们一定要辨清朋友好坏。
路遥和马力是好朋友，从小玩到大，
一起读书，感情非常好，
到了谈婚论嫁的年龄，
路遥已经有财有势，不愁无娇妻。
但是马力则贫穷潦倒，
根本没有人向他提亲，
有一天媒婆向马力提亲，
他开心得不得了，
不过开心也没用，
他根本就付不起昂贵的礼金，
于是他就去找路遥帮忙。
你猜路遥怎么回答他？
他说，
“我借钱给你没问题，不过成亲洞房头三天，我来代替你”。。
马力听到他这样说真的是怒气冲天，
是不是朋友？
竟然说出这种话！
但是没办法，谁叫自己穷，
又不想一辈子没老婆，
于是他咬紧牙根答应了路遥，
终于就成亲了。
马力就忍痛煎熬了三天，
第四天就轮到他洞房了，
但是心里依然不舒服，
所以进了新房就蒙头大睡，
新娘子就问他，
“夫君，为何前三晚你都通晓读书，今晚你却会蒙头大睡呢？”
马力才知道，原来他的好朋友，
跟他开了个很大的玩笑，
就在这一刻，
他立志努力读书，考取功名，
他最终成功了，而且在京城做了大官。
至于路遥，因为他疏财仗义，
终于搞得自己一贫如洗，
在没办法之下，
他决定上京请马力帮忙，
当马力听到他说明来意的时候，
他只是很冷淡地跟路遥说，
"路兄，请你回家吧，免得嫂夫人挂念。"
路遥听了才知道马力根本无心帮他，
只叹了一口气，很沮丧地回家了，
路遥一回到家里，
看到他妻儿搂着一副棺材一直哭，
他的家人看到他回来又惊又喜！
原来这副棺材是马力派人送来的，
还说路遥在京城身染顽疾去世了！
路遥一怒之下打开棺材，
原来里面全都是金银财宝，
还有一张字条，
字条上写着，
"你要我妻守三天空房，我要你妻痛哭一场"。。
以上的故事，
表面上好像两个好友，你玩我，我耍你，
其实有需要的时候，
他们还是会给于对方一个真诚的帮助。
所谓日久见人心，
其实人与人之间真的要经得起考验，
时间一久，经历多了，
交情才可以分辨得到，
知己难求，
我们真的要珍惜自己身边的好朋友。。
新的一年，Bon用了“新鞋子”的故事和大家分享‘珍惜’的重要性，
那么Teddy我就用这“路遥和马力”的故事和大家分享‘朋友’的意义。
就在这虎年的开始，祝福大家和自己的朋友们，友谊万岁。。。
有一个年轻人在网上误交损友，
被人骗财骗感情，
最终选择自杀结束了自己的生命。
被朋友出卖，
感觉真的很难受，
所以我们一定要辨清朋友好坏。
路遥和马力是好朋友，从小玩到大，
一起读书，感情非常好，
到了谈婚论嫁的年龄，
路遥已经有财有势，不愁无娇妻。
但是马力则贫穷潦倒，
根本没有人向他提亲，
有一天媒婆向马力提亲，
他开心得不得了，
不过开心也没用，
他根本就付不起昂贵的礼金，
于是他就去找路遥帮忙。
你猜路遥怎么回答他？
他说，
“我借钱给你没问题，不过成亲洞房头三天，我来代替你”。。
马力听到他这样说真的是怒气冲天，
是不是朋友？
竟然说出这种话！
但是没办法，谁叫自己穷，
又不想一辈子没老婆，
于是他咬紧牙根答应了路遥，
终于就成亲了。
马力就忍痛煎熬了三天，
第四天就轮到他洞房了，
但是心里依然不舒服，
所以进了新房就蒙头大睡，
新娘子就问他，
“夫君，为何前三晚你都通晓读书，今晚你却会蒙头大睡呢？”
马力才知道，原来他的好朋友，
跟他开了个很大的玩笑，
就在这一刻，
他立志努力读书，考取功名，
他最终成功了，而且在京城做了大官。
至于路遥，因为他疏财仗义，
终于搞得自己一贫如洗，
在没办法之下，
他决定上京请马力帮忙，
当马力听到他说明来意的时候，
他只是很冷淡地跟路遥说，
"路兄，请你回家吧，免得嫂夫人挂念。"
路遥听了才知道马力根本无心帮他，
只叹了一口气，很沮丧地回家了，
路遥一回到家里，
看到他妻儿搂着一副棺材一直哭，
他的家人看到他回来又惊又喜！
原来这副棺材是马力派人送来的，
还说路遥在京城身染顽疾去世了！
路遥一怒之下打开棺材，
原来里面全都是金银财宝，
还有一张字条，
字条上写着，
"你要我妻守三天空房，我要你妻痛哭一场"。。
以上的故事，
表面上好像两个好友，你玩我，我耍你，
其实有需要的时候，
他们还是会给于对方一个真诚的帮助。
所谓日久见人心，
其实人与人之间真的要经得起考验，
时间一久，经历多了，
交情才可以分辨得到，
知己难求，
我们真的要珍惜自己身边的好朋友。。
“路遥知马力，日久见人心”
新的一年，Bon用了“新鞋子”的故事和大家分享‘珍惜’的重要性，
那么Teddy我就用这“路遥和马力”的故事和大家分享‘朋友’的意义。
就在这虎年的开始，祝福大家和自己的朋友们，友谊万岁。。。
Monday, March 8, 2010
老姨 - 再见。。。
刚刚听说老姨走了，
完全没有人跟我说，
她在这世界走了整整一世纪，
最后还是决定停步了。
还记得老姨看见我时，
都会很大声地叫我，
然后微笑，
虽然她年纪大，
但是她却不曾叫错我们堂兄弟妹的名字。
每当一到她的家，
她第一件事就是把我们赶出门，
她一定会叫Uncle SH立刻带我们去吃市镇里最出名的沙爹。
很多事，
我们听过，见过，做过，
一句问候，一个笑容，
但过后就只剩下回忆，
不能从来。。
身边又少了一个关心自己的人。。
最近到底是怎么了，
发生很多不如意的事，
失去了一个亲人，
又好像失去了一个好朋友，
（。。。）
完全没有人跟我说，
她在这世界走了整整一世纪，
最后还是决定停步了。
还记得老姨看见我时，
都会很大声地叫我，
然后微笑，
虽然她年纪大，
但是她却不曾叫错我们堂兄弟妹的名字。
每当一到她的家，
她第一件事就是把我们赶出门，
她一定会叫Uncle SH立刻带我们去吃市镇里最出名的沙爹。
很多事，
我们听过，见过，做过，
一句问候，一个笑容，
但过后就只剩下回忆，
不能从来。。
身边又少了一个关心自己的人。。
最近到底是怎么了，
发生很多不如意的事，
失去了一个亲人，
又好像失去了一个好朋友，
（。。。）
Sunday, March 7, 2010
Being Fat Is A Crime
When I was on the train heading back a few days ago,
I overheard a conversation which I'm going to give the title as "Being Fat Is A Crime".
The conversation involved two Melbourne Uni guys,
The fat guy (named S) was talking to his friend (named B) who has an average physique,
S was telling B how he disliked the idea of going to gym for exercise,
Because in the university gym,
There are a lot of guys who are extremely fit and are fanatic/obsessed with their physique,
S mentioned that these guys like to tease and humiliate people like him,
Which makes him feel uncomfortable going to gym for exercise.
The sad thing is,
At the hostel that S lives,
He has a few friends and block-mates who even though are living with him,
Would still insult him and tease him about his body making him feel very uncomfortable,
This sounded like a serious matter to him because these people are his friends,
Yet they treat him in such a way without taking into account of his feelings,
B told S that his friends may be just joking around with him,
But then S said that they do it so often and the way that they do it doesn't seem like a mere joke anymore.
Listening to their conversation,
I wonder why people sometimes like to look down on others who doesn't have something,
For S, he doesn't have a good physique like his friends,
So they tease and insult him,
It is bad enough that people whom S doesn't know teases him outside,
But for people who he take as friends to be doing such things to hurt his feelings,
Isn't that worse?!
Isn't that harder to understand?
I don't understand why friends would do things to hurt their own friends.
What is the meaning of friends actually?
To do things to them to hurt them?
To do things to them to benefit yourself?
To do things to them to satisfy your own desire even though you hurt your friend's feelings?
I really wonder, what is the meaning of 'Friends' to such people?
I seriously wonder...
Further reading: The Meaning of Friend - by Daniel Goh
I overheard a conversation which I'm going to give the title as "Being Fat Is A Crime".
The conversation involved two Melbourne Uni guys,
The fat guy (named S) was talking to his friend (named B) who has an average physique,
S was telling B how he disliked the idea of going to gym for exercise,
Because in the university gym,
There are a lot of guys who are extremely fit and are fanatic/obsessed with their physique,
S mentioned that these guys like to tease and humiliate people like him,
Which makes him feel uncomfortable going to gym for exercise.
The sad thing is,
At the hostel that S lives,
He has a few friends and block-mates who even though are living with him,
Would still insult him and tease him about his body making him feel very uncomfortable,
This sounded like a serious matter to him because these people are his friends,
Yet they treat him in such a way without taking into account of his feelings,
B told S that his friends may be just joking around with him,
But then S said that they do it so often and the way that they do it doesn't seem like a mere joke anymore.
Listening to their conversation,
I wonder why people sometimes like to look down on others who doesn't have something,
For S, he doesn't have a good physique like his friends,
So they tease and insult him,
It is bad enough that people whom S doesn't know teases him outside,
But for people who he take as friends to be doing such things to hurt his feelings,
Isn't that worse?!
Isn't that harder to understand?
I don't understand why friends would do things to hurt their own friends.
What is the meaning of friends actually?
To do things to them to hurt them?
To do things to them to benefit yourself?
To do things to them to satisfy your own desire even though you hurt your friend's feelings?
I really wonder, what is the meaning of 'Friends' to such people?
I seriously wonder...
Further reading: The Meaning of Friend - by Daniel Goh
Saturday, March 6, 2010
I got hit by ice today!! 被冰块砸到。。
Yes!! I got hit by ice today!!
No No, not snow, there is no snow over here but there is ice!
It was raining hail today! No kidding!!
I was walking back from Uni then 'packkk!!' on my shoulders.
There was a sudden pain as though a stone was thrown at me, I looked at the ground and it was a piece of ice?!
Then later, more and more hailstones dropped from the sky, I could only use the text book as a helmet and ran underneath a balcony which had all this 'cracking' sound when stones of ice hit on it.
Quite cool I must say despite the pain.
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今天从大学回来时被冰块打到肩膀，好痛，但是挺有趣的。。
No No, not snow, there is no snow over here but there is ice!
It was raining hail today! No kidding!!
I was walking back from Uni then 'packkk!!' on my shoulders.
There was a sudden pain as though a stone was thrown at me, I looked at the ground and it was a piece of ice?!
Then later, more and more hailstones dropped from the sky, I could only use the text book as a helmet and ran underneath a balcony which had all this 'cracking' sound when stones of ice hit on it.
Quite cool I must say despite the pain.
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今天从大学回来时被冰块打到肩膀，好痛，但是挺有趣的。。
Friday, March 5, 2010
The meaning of 'Friend' - by Daniel Goh
The following post was written by a nice friend of mine, Daniel. Have a read and see whether you agree with him...
Source: http://iamaradicaldreamer.blogspot.com/2009/03/friends.html
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This is a post to reply to Teddy.
His question was "What is the meaning of 'Friend' "?
Generally, the word friend means a person whom we know, maybe not very well, but just in a brief aspect.
I think there is more to that. Being a friend, be it a close one,the best friend or just an ordinary friend, in the end, a friend will always be there to lend a helping hand whenever we're in trouble, or in time of need. A person whom we know, maybe have done something wrong or something that may make us sad, break our hearts, hurt us deep inside, or even make us cry, but that doesn't mean that this person, is no longer our friend or a person we call friend.
I m very sure, whenever any of our friends hurt us, or make us cry, they have a reason behind it. For an example, D is friends with R and S. In default, of course D would be helping both R and S. But there are situations where helping either R or S will in turn make the other party sad or hurt. If this happens, can we say that either one of the is no longer D's friend just because D made them cry or sad? Some of you may say that a true friend wont make their friends sad or unhappy. A true friend will share the pain and joy with you, regardless of the situation. They will know the best and fastest way to make us happy again, and if not, they will try their best and do whatever it takes to cheer us up. As least that is what i think. As what Teddy has written
"If a person can make you sad and cry, that means the person possesses a certain position within your heart; a person who is of no importance to you will definitely not be able to make you cry, correct?"
I think that this is indeed very true. Maybe he is just some guy you don't really know, but he has done something that is capable of affecting your feelings. Certainly, deep down in your heart, this person means something to you. Is he still considered your friend even though you don't really know him? My answer would be yes.
Even the best of friends have their argument and fights before. It is not easy to form such a strong bond by just seeing each other everyday or knowing a lot about the other person. It takes a whole lot more than that.
A friend doesn't have to be a person who makes you happy, it can also be a person who makes you sad. The only difference is, how these "friends" affect your life.
There are times where best friends make each other cry, but that doesn't mean that they are no longer friends.
Give some time for your friends to understand you, as well as for you to understand you better. No one is perfect, Mistakes and failures are what makes us better, making friendships stronger. Friends are not something you can just buy over with money or looks. Real friends don't expect anything in return for a favor they have done for you. They would be more than happy to help you out, regardless of themselves.
Lets all try to be a little more understanding of each other, we are all humans after all, and we all make mistakes.
Cherish the friends that we have now, and also the people around us. We will never know when will be the next time we will meet again. Just 5 minutes or a simple greeting like " Hey! or Hi!" will do. I m sure they would be happy to acknowledge you the same way you acknowledge them.
Good night.
Source: http://iamaradicaldreamer.blogspot.com/2009/03/friends.html
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This is a post to reply to Teddy.
His question was "What is the meaning of 'Friend' "?
Generally, the word friend means a person whom we know, maybe not very well, but just in a brief aspect.
I think there is more to that. Being a friend, be it a close one,the best friend or just an ordinary friend, in the end, a friend will always be there to lend a helping hand whenever we're in trouble, or in time of need. A person whom we know, maybe have done something wrong or something that may make us sad, break our hearts, hurt us deep inside, or even make us cry, but that doesn't mean that this person, is no longer our friend or a person we call friend.
I m very sure, whenever any of our friends hurt us, or make us cry, they have a reason behind it. For an example, D is friends with R and S. In default, of course D would be helping both R and S. But there are situations where helping either R or S will in turn make the other party sad or hurt. If this happens, can we say that either one of the is no longer D's friend just because D made them cry or sad? Some of you may say that a true friend wont make their friends sad or unhappy. A true friend will share the pain and joy with you, regardless of the situation. They will know the best and fastest way to make us happy again, and if not, they will try their best and do whatever it takes to cheer us up. As least that is what i think. As what Teddy has written
"If a person can make you sad and cry, that means the person possesses a certain position within your heart; a person who is of no importance to you will definitely not be able to make you cry, correct?"
I think that this is indeed very true. Maybe he is just some guy you don't really know, but he has done something that is capable of affecting your feelings. Certainly, deep down in your heart, this person means something to you. Is he still considered your friend even though you don't really know him? My answer would be yes.
Even the best of friends have their argument and fights before. It is not easy to form such a strong bond by just seeing each other everyday or knowing a lot about the other person. It takes a whole lot more than that.
A friend doesn't have to be a person who makes you happy, it can also be a person who makes you sad. The only difference is, how these "friends" affect your life.
There are times where best friends make each other cry, but that doesn't mean that they are no longer friends.
Give some time for your friends to understand you, as well as for you to understand you better. No one is perfect, Mistakes and failures are what makes us better, making friendships stronger. Friends are not something you can just buy over with money or looks. Real friends don't expect anything in return for a favor they have done for you. They would be more than happy to help you out, regardless of themselves.
Lets all try to be a little more understanding of each other, we are all humans after all, and we all make mistakes.
Cherish the friends that we have now, and also the people around us. We will never know when will be the next time we will meet again. Just 5 minutes or a simple greeting like " Hey! or Hi!" will do. I m sure they would be happy to acknowledge you the same way you acknowledge them.
Good night.
Thursday, March 4, 2010
感激梁氏一家
到了墨城三个星期，
我应该向一家人说声‘谢谢’，
真的这家人让我感到很惊讶也很欣慰，
原因是我可从没想到他们一家人竟然会在我上机之前打电话祝福我，
毕竟我只见过他们一次，
但是他们的祝福真的是直入心里，
让我万分感激。。
在这小小个以没人关顾的小部落格里，
我想向
Uncle Leong,
Auntie Leong,
小健，
还有在远方的阿杰，
说声谢谢。。
I was really touched by what all of you did for me...
我应该向一家人说声‘谢谢’，
真的这家人让我感到很惊讶也很欣慰，
原因是我可从没想到他们一家人竟然会在我上机之前打电话祝福我，
毕竟我只见过他们一次，
但是他们的祝福真的是直入心里，
让我万分感激。。
在这小小个以没人关顾的小部落格里，
我想向
Uncle Leong,
Auntie Leong,
小健，
还有在远方的阿杰，
说声谢谢。。
I was really touched by what all of you did for me...
Wednesday, March 3, 2010
Joke: “Assume”
Cheryl (lecturer) said:-
“In life, many people love to assume. Assume she is going to do that. Assume he is going to say that. Assume they know that. Assume we will be able to do that. Assume this, assume that, yadaa, yadaa, yadaa.
But what people don’t realize is, when you assume, most of the time you will be wrong. And the consequences can be disastrous especially if you are working in a laboratory or an engineering workshop just like the engineering students which you are going to be tutoring.
So, out of my 60 years of life, my advice is, never ‘assume’ anything. If you don’t know something, just ask. If you are not sure whether they can do it, just ask them, so that they won’t kill themselves doing the experiments!!Remember this; if you write the word ‘Assume’, you will notice that it also means ‘Ass-U-Me’, which means we make an ‘ass’ of out ‘u’ and ‘me’ when we assume something, basically we make a fool out of ourselves when we assume anything!! So, never assume!!! Ask and get the real answer...”
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