Bon，对不起，是我的错。。

最近，我不小心做错了件事，
那就是得罪了我的好友，Bon...

我承认，
是我弄你生气，
是我对你说话的语气不对，
是我太过分，
是我做错。

我曾经说过，
我这人，在朋友面前，不会摆架子，没有傲气，
我若错，我会承认，我会道歉。

今天是我生日，
朋友送我礼物，给我祝福，
但是有份礼物，却不是给我的，
而是我想送给你的，
那就是：

"Brother，是我的错，我只是想向你说-对不起，请求你能原谅"

我知道在别人眼里，有可能我这么做，他们会觉得我很丢自己的脸，
但是在我眼里，朋友之间，有比面子还重要的东西，
那就是：友情。

希望这个礼物，你能接受，并且原谅我的过失。

Three Girls: How to Choose?

Was chatting with RY some day ago about Physics and he suddenly changed topic by asking "Have you got a new gf yet?"

>.<" deng~~~

Haha.. This is an answer which I've kept under wraps for a long time due to uncertainties.

She:
- Much younger than I (SV & Jon said it's ok, it doesn't really matter, but I'm kinda worried)
- Interests are extremely similar to mine
- Character is nice
- Cheerful
- But I've noticed that she has changed, you can say she is 'open minded', but I still feel uncomfortable.
- I guess it's because of her young age, so when she is exposed to foreign culture, and not having a strong principle, she lost her initial identity.. I'm a little unhappy with her attitude recently...

She:
- Very direct, straight forward person, as in she speaks her mind
- Just like me, she doesn't conceal her feelings a lot, you can see clearly what she doesn't like or when she is unhappy
- Very cute smile
- Very professional when handling serious matter
- Problem: She is purely English educated, she can't speak nor write nor read mandarin. You may think that language is not a problem, but then, all my close friend, SV, Jon, Brother, etc are mandarin speaking. I can't imagine going out with them and having to speak in English to prevent her from being left out and feeling uncomfortable, as she can't understand a single mandarin word.
- Personally, I prefer to speak the language of the person, if chinese friends, speak mandarin, malay friends, speak malay because I feel the friendliness.
- I'm not that kind of person which will devote all my time for a girlfriend. I believe that my close friends are equal to my girlfriend. Chinese say "重义", I will never neglect my close friend just because of my girlfriend or vice versa. So, I'm a little afraid that this language barrier maybe a problem later. I hope she can understand that.

She:
- Straight forward attitude
- Friendly and jovial
- Mature in handling serious matter
- Motivated
- Superb mandarin
- But then she is not Malaysian, from what I noticed from my friends who have foreign gf, the question of staying where is always a problem, especially when both are thinking of their own country where their families and friends are, where they would like to settle down for their lives and career.

Biggest problem is: Long Distance Relationship

All of them are not in favour of it. I've seen a few LDR before and they basically didn't work out. Most of them break very fast. It is rather difficult to maintain a relationship just by MSN or email from far away.

This was the headache since Dec 09 when I've decided to come over to Melbourne for studies and will most probably spend the next 3.5 years over here. Really headache! It was too hard to decide whether to commit to the relationship or not. It would not be fair to tie each other down yet if the relationship will not work and unstable. I still haven't made up my mind until now.

Now got additional problem somemore, brother is toying with me. Sigh... Can I solve both problems soon. It is so unfair for all cases. It is not good to tie people down and make things hanging halfway. It is so unfair to everyone.

Related Links:
- 对不起，我爱你 （要投入一段感情是不容易的，要想到别人的处境，跟其中一个她说‘开始’，最终却连累到对方，我会很过于不去，爱一个人，也是件错事吗？）

还有，不只是我们选人家，人家也在选我们咯。。要互相选到彼此才行。。感情的事，很复杂哦。。

为什么有些人，即使离得远远，但仿佛还是靠在我眼前？

Swaying Principles

Do you have principles/moral ethics which you follow in your life? Ever felt tempted to just break these principles/ethics for self benefit (to protect self image, reputation; or obtain monetary or non-monetary gains, etc.).

I accidentally made a mistake the other day when I was discarding some waste which is supposed to be place in two layers of waste bags rather than one.

When SB took the waste for disposal, the officer noticed it and scolded him.

SB came back to remind everyone that we are supposed to double-bagged the waste before disposal. At first, I really did not give it much thought as I was busy with my experiments. But when I was done with my experiments (which was about two hours later), I was thinking about the waste disposal matter and it struck me that I maybe the one who have forgotten to double-bag the waste.

Since nobody knew who did the mistake, I had the choice of just keeping silence and forget about it. Then I would not get the blame, since neither the manager nor the lecturer knew about it. Should I tell or should I not tell? Should I protect my image or should I just let people know I was careless and made the mistake?

What was my choice?

I approached SB to ask whether the waste was from the bin next to my place and was it in a yellow bag (many people use that bin). He confirmed it. And I knew it was really my fault. So, I immediately apologized to him and admitted that it was my negligence that caused him the scolding.

Yes, some people may say, since nobody knew, I could have just acted ‘dumb’. But at the end of the day, I guess we still need to live with our conscience. I did not feel good knowing that SB was scolded for my mistake. Yes, by telling others about it, everyone would know that I was careless. But at least, I feel better.

In reality, how many of us are being tempted to go against principles and moral ethics? How many of us succumbed to such temptations to benefit ourselves? What is the cause for us to sway so easily from moral values? Is it because we just want to portray a ‘I’m-never-wrong’ image to others, in other words being egocentric? Or is it an upbringing problem where our parents and families have not exposed us to the correct values? Or is it a matter of formal education problem which we have received through institutions?

If we choose to go against moral values, against principles, whose fault is it? Ours? Parents? Teachers?

In the first place, should we go against moral ethics and principles? Can you answer this truthfully?

Who am I?

I have Uzumaki Naruto's silly commitment towards relationships...

I have Gaara's (Godaime Kazekage) yearn for recognition...

I have Uchiha Sasuke's will in doing whatever I want to achieve...

I have Hiruzen Sarutobi's (Sandaime Hokage) belief in upholding principles...

I have Uchiha Itachi's willingness for self-sacrifice for the ones he loved and cared for...

I have Yondaime Raikage's temper when angered...

With all being said, who am I actually? I guess I'm just myself, a complex fusion of many traits and personalities which left myself being misunderstood by many, including people whom I treat as friends...

How to Read an Article (in this context, a blog)?

It has come to my attention recently that there are many out there who do not know how to read a blog or in general, an article and understand it properly.

This is really a worrying situation when all of us who have gone through some education at some point of our lives are taught again and again about ‘reading’.

Whether it is primary school or secondary school, or even at the tertiary level, we will get papers with the first section having titles like “Comprehension”, “Pemahaman” or “理解文” (Trust me, if I knew the Tamil equivalent of this vocabulary, I would include it).

The questions which follow the passage will require you to understand not all but at least the majority of the contents of the given passage in order to provide the appropriate answers.

Throughout our education lives, we have been repeatedly taught to read and try to comprehend these passages so that we can understand what it is trying to convey.

The question which arises now: Why do we still misinterpret an article so often?

The problem which I have noticed here is that people love to just read a post, and then pick out a particular sentence and excessively emphasize on it. If the article has 500 words in it, do you just read and emphasize the 10 words in a particular sentence and take it as the complete meaning of the entire article?

Will this action bring misunderstanding?
Will this action bring misinterpretation?
Will this action bring harm to the author?
Will this action bring unnecessary complications to the author(s) and reader(s) when speculations are bring spread widely without first seeking clarification from the author(s)?

It is saddening that many people out there are so called ‘educated’ yet their actions present them otherwise.

A passage is presented as a ‘whole’ to carry the complete meaning, and not as a ‘basket full of yellow balls with only a red one among them for you to pick out’.

I hope for those people have read this article, you can re-learn the meaning of ‘comprehension’.

Girlfriend：种族是问题吗？

要不是RY突然问起这件事，我还真的是好久没去想了。

中四认识了她，和她一起走了一段六年的路途。
喜欢她的笑容，
喜欢她的幽默，
喜欢她的体贴。

最终，我还是选择了结束一切。

回想起以前，是我错吗？还是我对？我们俩都很明显是不同世界的人。

好朋友们知道我和她在一起的事，都不是很赞成。即使是大学二年分开以后，她还是有尝试联络我，但是因大家的反对，我都不敢和她说话。

到现在，如果提起这件事Jess还是会骂我，反对我们在一起。以前和Jess说她有偶尔给我SMS，但是Jess就只说，不要回，对我们都没有好处，我们俩是不同的世界的，以后会有很多问题。看她默默地尝试联络我，我却没有勇气回她，看到她的痛苦，她的伤心，但是我真的无能为力。我从小就很注重感情，不管是什么感情，亲情，友情，爱情，自己面对这种情况，我会不痛吗？不能给她回复，看着她痛，我更痛。我自己不喜欢一种不上不下的情况，就只是喜欢明确的答案。想起她那时的情况，真的觉得很痛。爱上她，却让她痛，真的很对不起。

有可能从小就住在马来村子里，时间久了，喜欢上她们的女生，觉得她们有时比华人简单，单纯。华人女生基本上比较开放，衣着，思想，有时太过开放，所以我不是很能接受。裙子太高，上衣太低，总是让我不怎么舒服。当朋友可以，没问题，如果在一起，我真的不是很舒服。

虽然和她分开后，每次看到的女生都是她世界的。所以搞得自己很辛苦。喜欢，却不能在一起。走得很近，却知道没有机会，没有结果。

过了这么多年终于慢慢过了自己这一关，开始看上某某华人了。但是会成功吗？我不知道。。我只是很怕痛，自己痛，更怕害得别人也痛。。。

What I believe... (Thanks to JL for this nice piece)

A Birth Certificate shows that we were born.
A Death Certificate shows that we died.
Pictures show that we lived!
Have a seat . . . Relax . . . And read this slowly.

I Believe...
That just because two people argue,
it doesn't mean they don't love each other.
And just because they don't argue,
it doesn't mean they do love each other.

I Believe...
That we don't have to change friends if
we understand that friends change.

I Believe...
That no matter how good a friend is, they're going to hurt you every once in a while and you must forgive them for that.

I Believe...
That true friendship continues to grow, even over
the longest distance. Same goes for true love.

I Believe...
That you can do something in an instant
that will give you heartache for life.

I Believe...
That it's taking me a long time
to become the person I want to be.

I Believe...
That it will take me a longer time
to become the person you want me to be, but I will try.

I Believe...
That you should always leave loved ones with
loving words.. It may be the last time you see them.

I Believe...
That you can keep going long after you think you can't.

I Believe...
That we are responsible for what
we do, no matter how we feel.

I Believe...
That either you control your attitude or it controls you.

I Believe...
That heroes are the people who do what has to be done
when it needs to be done, regardless of the consequences.

I Believe...
That money is a lousy way of keeping score.

I Believe...
That my best friend and I can do anything or nothing and have the best time.

I Believe...
That sometimes the people you expect to kick you
when you're down, will be the ones to help you get back up.

I Believe...
That sometimes when I'm angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn't give me the right to be cruel.

I Believe....
That maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you've had and what you've learned from them and less to do with how many birthdays you've celebrated.

I Believe...
That it isn't always enough, to be forgiven by others..
sometimes, you have to learn to forgive yourself.

I Believe...
That no matter how bad your heart is broken the world doesn't stop for your grief.

I Believe...
That our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are,
but, we are responsible for who we become.

I Believe...
That you shouldn't be so eager to find
out a secret. It could change your life Forever.

I Believe...
Two people can look at the exact same
thing and see something totally different.

I Believe....
That your life can be changed in a matter of
hours by people who don't even know you.

I Believe...
That even when you think you have no more to give, when a friend cries out to you - you will find the strength to help.

I Believe...
That credentials on the wall do not make you a decent human being.

I Believe...
That the people you care about most in life are taken from you too soon.

I Believe...
That you should send this to all of the people that you believe in, I just did.

'The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything;
they just make the most of everything