The Wall

Previously I wrote of two posts: "He has Aids!!!" and "Admitting ones mistake in Melbourne"

Briefly describing the latter in English: A car suddenly stopped at the Royal Melbourne Hospital entrance was honked by a lady at the back, the man alighted from the car walking to the big pillar on the left pushing his wheel-chaired father to his car without much concern of the car at the back. Standing beside the pillar, I was able to see the wheel-chaired old folk, for a second I was shock why the lady honked him, but then I realized she couldn't have known. The pillar was her blind spot. Looking at the man helping his father into the car, I decided not to help, I wanted to test the outcome of the incident. The lady hesitated on getting out of her car, but she in the end did get out of her walking towards the man and apologizing to him about the incident and voluntarily helped him fold the wheelchair. Most often it isn't easy to admit ones mistake, moreover in public where there are others looking. But this lady did it.

The latter story had a 'Wall' i.e. the pillar which blocked the truth which caused the lady to misunderstood the man's intentions. Thinking he was an irresponsible person causing a traffic jam at the back. This 'Wall' was coincidentally at that place which caused the misunderstanding.

The former story also had a 'Wall'. But this 'Wall' was intentionally put there by people to mislead the crowd. The 'Wall' which conceal the fact that Hsien was not a HIV positive patient. Maybe back then people dislike him, hence using such a 'Wall' to frame him, making him the victim of mockery and insults.

A 'Wall' can be coincidental, it can also be intentional.

Whatever it is, on what purpose, it can cause misunderstandings. Some walls are hard to bring down. The Berlin wall which separated East and West Germany didn't come down in one day, neither did it come down because of one person's effort.

It is difficult to remove a strong 'wall', especially one which is intentionally placed there.

Additional reading: His Mother Is a Bitch!!!

他有爱滋病 (He has Aids!!)

看着自己现在的遭遇，让我想起小学的事。

班里有两位同学：萧和贤同学。他们两都是坐在E组的。我因坐在A组，所以也没什么和他们两有什么接触，但是他们俩不合的事，全班都知道。整天不是吵架就是打架。

不知道是几时开始的，除了萧，还有其他几名同学就一直说贤同学有爱滋病，每次一看到他就会这么说，而且B班的同学也是这么说。

贤同学每次看到这种情景都会当着没听见走开。

这件事也持续挺久的，少说也有半年那么久。

有一天，我接到贤同学母亲打来的电话，其实他的母亲也是我幼稚园的老师，也是我教会的管理人。朱老师打来就只是想问，到底是谁说他儿子有爱滋病。听到这问题，我还真的不知道怎么回答，就只是说不知道，因为都没参那组的人，到底是谁开始，过后又是谁传到这么厉害的，我都不知道。

朱老师挂了电话后，志辉和祥伟都打来问我有没有接到贤同学母亲的电话。原来朱老师打了给好多人，想查出到底是谁散播的谣言。

第二天，下课的时候，我在课室里和朋友聊天，办公室就在课室隔壁。突然听见有人很大声说话，声音很熟悉，原来真的是朱老师，她一直在问姚老师到底发生什么事，为何她的儿子会觉得到学校上课会很辛苦，很自卑，很像精神和心理上受到很大的创伤。虽然幼稚园时也有看到朱老师生气，但是还真的没看过她这么激动。

下课后，我们都没得上课，因为姚老师就只是在课室里问大家事情的来龙去脉，并且严厉警告我们不许胡乱说话，散播谣言。

虽然和贤同学没什么来往，但是现在想起来，他那时应该真的很难受，也很辛苦，无端端被人讲，而且不只是一个，是很多个。

有时觉得人很过分，很多时候都没有想到别人的感受就做出伤害他人的事。。

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Looking at my current situation, it suddenly reminds me what happened in primary school.

My class used to be divided into groups A to E. In group E, there was two students, Xiao & Hsien. As I was in group A, I seldom mix with them. Nonetheless, everybody knows about them, as they never get along and often get into fights and quarrels.

Can't really tell when it really started, but besides Xiao, a few other students started saying Hsien actually has Aids! The second class students were also saying the same thing. All Hsien does when encountering such gossips was to walk away silently.

This event took place many times and continue for like half a year or so.

One day, Hsien's mother phoned me. His mother, Mdm Esther was my kindergarten teacher and church fellowship supervisor. All she wanted to know was what happened in school and who was the person involved in spreading the rumour. But frankly, I didn't know the answer at all. I later got calls from Fei & Seangwei, then knowing that Mdm Esther actually called quite a few of us trying to find out what happened in school.

The next day during recess time, I heard a loud argument from the staff room which is just beside my classroom. It was Mdm Esther confronting Ms. Yao, my class teacher, asking why she noticed her son emotionally and mentally distress, fearing to go to school. Though it was normal to see Mdm Esther got a heated up during kindergarten, but never to such extend before.

Later, Ms Yao spend the lesson time interrogating the class trying to understand the unfortunate rumour which spread, and sternly warned all of us from such misdoings.

Though I was never closed to Hsien, but thinking back, he must have gone through some very tough times back then, having to face so many people pointing fingers at him, laughing at him, mocking him. It must be really sad.

It is even sadder that people can do things to others without thinking of their feelings...

在墨城认错

一辆蓝色车一驾进墨尔本皇室医院入口处就停下。

后边在大路也想转进入口处的妇女只好停下。

蓝车车主，下车。

妇女立刻摁喇叭！还比了个‘你在干什么？’的手势。

那位先生只看了她一眼，就走到旁边的墙去。其实，墙后是他坐在轮椅的父亲。

我看到这情景，决定不帮，因为我想做个实验。

妇女看到了被推出来的老先生，面无表情。

那位先生忙着扶他父亲上车。妇女则开了车门，过后又关上。

她犹豫了一下，还是下了车，走到那位先生那儿，像他道歉说她没看到他是来接他父亲的。

然后就帮那位先生搬轮椅上车。

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这故事的两大含义，你们明白了吗？

1。认错：这件事，有时很难做，有些人会觉得很丢脸，才不敢做，一直装自己没错的样子或是把责任推到他人身上过活。

2。墙：很多时候，其实事情很简单，但是因为一堵‘墙’，有可能是刚好就在那里有堵墙，或是有人刻意设了一堵墙在那儿，让一件简单的事，看起来很复杂，让大家看不清事情的真相，误会了某些人。

简简单单的情景，却有很深的含义，你们明白了吗？

他妈妈是个贱货！！(His mother is a bitch!!)

他妈妈是个贱货，
他爸爸做鸭的，
他妹妹是个妓女，
他弟弟搞同性恋！！

终于把心里话说出来了，舒服吗?? 但是你真的能说这些话吗？

有些人觉得，
和自己的朋友在一起的时候，
什么都可以说，
无所不谈，
这，我同意，毕竟是和自己喜欢的朋友，
但是，在讨论某些话题的时候，我们也必须对自己的话付出‘责任’。

“饭可以乱吃，话不可以乱讲”

这句话，是不是白痴都有听过呢？

我们想要做什么，说什么，
没人可以管，大家都会让我们去做，
但是我们得为自己做出的事，说过的话，付出责任，
不是说了，做了，就当没发生过，当不知道，
为何做的时候，说的时候，没去想不应该说，不应该做呢？
是不是完完全全只为了满足自己的娱乐而去做，去说？

为何有些人会有如此不负责任的思想？
是教育问题吗？
还是家教问题？
还是朋友影响的关系？

你曾经想过吗，
因为你说的一句话，
别人的生活严重被影响，
因为你说的一句话，
别人被他人取笑，
因为你说的一句话，
别人被误解被排挤。。

这人的感受如何？
你有想过吗？

"Because of how far this thing has gone, and you are in education line, it will affect your career. A joke is a joke, but when it damages someone's career and reputation, then it is no longer funny." - Kim

------Don't understand Mandarin, here you go, International Language version------

His mother is a bitch,
His father is a gigolo,
His sister is a whore,
His brother is a gay!

There you go!! I've said out my mind!!! Feels good eh?? But can you really say all these?

Some people think,
You can say whatever you want when you are with your friends,
I do agree to some extend with this,
But the emphasis here is we must always take "responsibility" of what we have or are going to say (or do).

An old Chinese saying "You can eat whatever you want, but never say anything as you please"

Nobody will/can refrain you from doing/saying what you want,
It is totally up to you,
But you must always be mindful of your actions,
And most importantly, take responsibility of it,
You can't do something, say something and then assume nothing happened or you've done nothing,
Did you do it or say it just to satisfy your personal pleasure?

Why do certain people have such irresponsible attitude?
Is it a problem with their education?
Is it a matter with their upbringing?
Or is it an issue with the people they mix with?

Have you put in some thought that for what you've done/said,
Somebody's life is affected by your inconsiderate remarks?
Have you ever given some thought that for what you've done/said,
Somebody becomes ridiculed by others for no reason?
Have you have the simplest intelligence at all to just think that for what you've done/said,
Somebody is misunderstood by others and looked down upon?

How does this person feel?
Have you think about that?

NOTE: Should there be any disparity between the two posts (Chinese & English), the English post precedes.

“我做鬼也不会放过你们的！”

这句话在电视剧里是不是时常提到啊？

记得以前老师有提过因为金融风暴，搞得很多家庭妻离子散，家破人亡。

很多人因为承受不了一夜之间失去一切的打击而决定结束自己的生命。一些则是想报复大耳窿的追债而选择自刭，希望能变成厉鬼对付他们。

据说金融风暴那年，应该是97年，有很多人为了想对讨债者，而穿上红衣上吊或跳楼。有些则是全家人集体以这种方式自杀。

穿着红衣自杀，真的能变成厉鬼吗？

变成厉鬼后，真的能对付这些人的仇家吗？

七月到了，今天是七月第一天。

大家早点回家，晚上少出门吧。。。

冬天的T-shirt

SY: 你冬天就只是穿这T-shirt到处走吗？

Me: 嗯。。都不会冷啊。。

SY: 不冷哦？那夏天怎么办？不会把皮都拔掉吧？？？

How the truth works - by Stacey

"When the people from that school thinks you are wrong, even if you are right, you will be wrong"

What!! No no no, that's not how the truth works.. Definitely not.

The truth is the truth no matter what others think.

The truth will always be the truth, though people may conceal it or distort something to cover it, but it is still the truth.

I'm really sorry for you, never thought that this kind of things can actually happen. But I guess this is what they call life. Sometimes life sucks.

It would not be a problem here in Australia though, this thing is nothing here, but I understand in Malaysia, such nonsense can ruin lives. It's really going to be hard for you. So sorry those people don't understand how you feel and the consequences just because of what they said, they should know better considering the fact that they are Malaysians, don't they know the mentality there?

It is wrong for the spread of this rumour, but.. hmm.. Ok let's be fair, they can think about it... suspect, but if they are your friends, they should verify with you straight in your face, if not, that's it, let it die off, not think about it or doubt you, not to discuss or whatever the word they want to use , "speculate" with anybody at all regardless of who those people are, their close friends or whoever. Because to discuss or to say it is already transferring the 'topic' to another person. They have no right to defame you in this way.

I'm just really sorry for you that you have to go through all this by yourself. Knowing that many people from that school are the ones you treat as nice friends, and now they are affected by this nonsense, it will be hard for you. I'm really sorry.

But look at the bright side, from this matter, you will see who is your real friends and who is not. But you really need to be prepared because you may just see a lot of people that you once trusted to go against you now or will go against you. Sounds discouraging, but I'm really sorry.

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Thanks to Stacey for the encouragement =)

被打字机震伤

昨晚又只睡了两小时就被吓醒了。

这个梦有点怪。

你们记得黄药师的碧海潮风曲吗？
就是那用笛吹出来能让对手内功混乱走火入魔的曲子。

昨晚的梦有类似的感觉。我想找个答案，却找不着，
过后，新山的那双胞胎带我到深山里的木屋里。

晚上时，我睡不着，就到屋外走走。

在不远处，看见一个老人在亭子里打字，
嘀嘀嗒嗒的，奇怪的是，
滴滴嗒嗒的声音逐渐消失反而人的声音却出现。

那老人虽然嘴唇没动，但是他却能跟我说话。

他说了很多我听不懂的东西，就只是说好好地想，
能想出解决眼前问题的方法，
误会总会有，
但误会能以沟通解决，
人心本来就复杂，
很多人做事都没想到后果，
害人害己，
自己关心的人必须去保护，
有时有贵人相助，
有时得单枪匹马去做，
但不管怎样，
最终为了维护他人，
自己会伤痕累累，
切记。。。

当我想向那老人走过去时，
他就打了几个字，
我感觉到一股强大的内力往我冲过，
就把我抛到几尺之外，
根本无力起身，
当我昏倒时，
也是我从睡梦中苏醒的时候。

How rumours bring people down?

Suddenly, I feel extremely scared of rumours,
I've never actually encountered one in my life before,
As in experienced it myself,
But I've seen it happened to my neighbour before.

She was Auntie N who works in a school,
A very kind lady of 50 plus,
She often cooks nice food and pass me some,
Well, I seriously can't believe what they said about her.

The people around our area started talking about her keeping young guys at home,
Basically the aunties around my area,
And amazingly the matter reached the school,
Causing the principal to confront her to ask about the matter,
Though she denied it,
But in the end she had to resign and leave the school,
And also shifted away from our place.

Rumours are normally hot topics which hang around people's mouth,
It is gossip topics which spread like wildfire with untiring source of flame,
These topics can destroy others' lives,
Defame others,
Ruining their image,
Tarnishing their reputation.

But worst of all,
When rumours spread,
More often people are not given a chance to defend themselves,
Or clarifying anything,
People will just spread the rumours,
Speculating the matter,
Whether for the sake of passing time,
Or entertainment,
The person of the topic will just be a victim of discussion and speculation...

Blind & Deaf

Blind,
I was blind for the past year,
Blind for not seeing through the people,
Blind for not preventing the plot,
Blind for not saving myself,
Blind for not protecting my friends.

Deaf,
I was deaf for the same time,
Deaf for not hearing the words,
Deaf for not stopping the stopping the nightmare,
Deaf for not avoiding the insults,
Deaf for not clearing up the air.

As a whole,
I was blind and deaf,
I was the laughing stock of all,
I was the dummy they pointed at,
I was the silly guy they mocked of.

When I was blind and deaf,
Where was my friends?
Did they stood and defend me?
Did they join the crowd to attack me?
Did they turn their back to ignore me?
Did they enjoy the fun of laughing at me?

Jiachang, thanks for defending me...

Milk

E: "Wow, you must seriously like milk, don't you?"
T: "Yea, it's healthy, I don't drink coffee, not much of a tea drinker too"

S: "You're gonna get heaps of calcium!! Haha"
T: "Oh ya, prevents me from getting osteoporosis"

S: "But you will get hypercalcaemia though"
T: "Possibly, but I can't really remember what is that"

E: "Guess it's not important, coz I've never heard of it, you looked energetic Sint"
S: "Really?"

T: "I thought he looked tired"
S: "I'm tired actually, need to look for the scientific passion again, that, that, that something, curiosity maybe, wanting the answer"

T: "Curiosity dies of after the experiments fail"
S: "Naa, that's optimism! That dies off!! I need to find myself again"

E: "Aww.. it's in there somewhere"
T: "Yea, it's in there, just dead only"

S: "What?!?! Hahaha"
E: "Naa, still alive, struggling to survive I guess"

S: "Hopefully... How've you been doing recently?"
T: "Me? Ain't too good, things aint wana get cloned! Haha..."

E: "Naa, he meant your personal life"
T: "Oh.. hmm... not too good either..."

E: "Sounds bad, everything ok?"
T: "Well, yea.. hmm.. let's not talk about it, not sure what's going on in the back"

S: "That bad huh?!"
T: "Yea... Don't know why all this is happening... Let's not talk about it, will figure out a way to solve it"

E: "You coming in from work stuff this weekend?"
T: "Naa, I need sometime alone, to rest... You?"

E: "I've never come into this place on the weekends!"
S: "You serious?!?! Haha... How did you survive? I've been coming in for the past 2 months, I'm taking a few days off next week"

T: "Off? You kidding me?! That's nice. Haha, you going off home?"
S: "Yea, back to the countries, nice beaches, well, normally nice, now it's too cold!!"

T: "Any seashells?"
S: "Definitely!!"

T: "Mind picking a few for me?"
S: "No problem.."

T: "We should do something together sometime"
E: "Just not pub huh?!"

T: "Yea.."
E: "You don't like the alcohol? Or is it the smell"

T: "Yea the smell, just don't feel comfortable there"
S: "Yea sometime soon, a class thing..."

An hour long conversation started just because I took a cup of milk...

You maybe amaze how did I remember what everybody said. But since young, I have this capability of remembering everything most people say around me. Maybe it's because I take serious the words I say.

I don't say things which I can't hold on to. Everything I say will be something I will hold on to, even though it is not a promise. It's a word, and it will be my word.

I wonder if this attitude is wrong. I seriously don't know. But to me, trust doesn't come easily. If you play around with your words a lot, you will lose people's trust to you. Even if you held onto each of your words, people may still not trust you.

Efforts put into trusting and letting others trust you isn't an easy road. It takes a lot of work...

心不在焉

从上个拜五，我还没好好地睡过一觉，
每晚都留在电脑前和朋友聊天，
幸好世界的另一边是白天，
又有朋友在那儿，
才不会一个人过凄凉的黑夜。。

昨天想把蛋白质拿去烫了后才化验，
哪儿知道最后连自己的手也放进了热水里，
今天想把菌种放进仪器检验，
最后仪器没开，白白让菌种坐在仪器里，什么都没验到。。

现在头有点痛，
没试过被人陷害到这种地步，
束手无策。。

一种米，百种人 (Vary in practice, Doesn't mean wrong in life)

"师叔那人是怪了一点，但是不能说他的拳法不好嘛。。。"
"Senior teacher is a little weird, but we can't say his skills is bad..."

叶问 (Ip man)

"一种米，百种人"
"We all eat the same grain, but we are all different"

Anonymous

There are around 5 billion people living in this world. Although we are all human beings, but we all have different practices, cultures, believes, etc. 世上有约五十亿人。虽然大家都属于人类，但是各有不同的文化，习俗，信念等。

But does that dictate which is the better group of people while the rest aren't? 这些不同之处能决定哪一组人属于比较优秀的吗？

When one group of people meets another, what will happen? Shocked? Maybe because of the different practices? 当不同的人群碰上面，大家会有什么反应？是不是会因习俗的不同而感到吃惊？

But even in the difference of practices and believes, can one say the other is wrong or maybe weird? 我们是否应该因这些习俗上的不同而对别人有所偏见呢？

A person who is different just merely mean he is different from your group of people, it doesn't mean he is abnormal. Have you ever thought that in the person's eyes, your group of people maybe abnormal too? 一个人若在我们的眼里有点和我们不同，就只代表他有不同，而不代表他不正常。我们如果觉得对方不正常，那么我们在他们的眼里会不会也是不正常呢？

The down part of Eastern culture is the thought of rejecting what is different and having prejudice against them. 东方文法不足之处在于我们常对不一样的东西存有偏见。

Leung Bik once modified the Wing Chun system which caused him to live in exile from the home of Wing Chun, Foshan. But that doesn't totally mean his Wing Chun is wrong, just that it is different. 梁碧曾经对咏春拳做出一些改变，造成他离开佛山。虽然他使的咏春拳是和陈华顺的不同，但不代表他的不真宗，有错，就只是说他的咏春拳有所不同。